Question: What kind of effect are online flirtations having on couple relationships? What advice do you offer to couples who want to have fun in social spaces but don’t want to torpedo their own relationships?
Dr. Trina: My best advice is: if you can’t tell your partner what you’re up to then don’t do it. If you can chat easily about the flirtation then it should be okay.
I would suggest never do anything outside of your relationship in secrecy. It’s… Continue
Added by Trina Read on February 22, 2009 at 10:05am —
Chris: What’s the difference between single woman sex and married woman sex?
My Answer: When you think about how the average person learns to have sex, it was a short time period encompassing a small amount of knowledge. That limited learning is what we take and use for the rest of our lives. This single-sex formula works great when we are… Continue
Added by Trina Read on February 8, 2009 at 6:33am —
Here's my answer:
I wrote this book because of my own sexual difficulties after only a few years of marriage. I knew the minute I met my husband that he was “the one” and everything about our relationship, including the sex, was amazing. Yet three years after getting married our sex life became almost… Continue
Added by Trina Read on February 1, 2009 at 7:49am —
I'm the guest Sex Expert for the Canadian Glow magazine. From January to March I will answer four reader questions. Here's the first.
Glow Question: “I dreamt that I cheated on my boyfriend with an ex and I feel awful! What does this mean?”
It’s not just men having wet dreams—women have sex dreams too. Some dreams get so hot and heavy women can achieve orgasm…hopefully she remembers when she wakes up. Otherwise she’ll wake up feeling… Continue
What are some practical ways couples can deal with their struggles in the bedroom?
It’s tremendously difficult for the average couple to talk about a sexual dysfunction—whether it is an erectile problem or an inability to orgasm. Your best first step is to educate yourself on what is going on with your body; then educate your partner and together have a conversation about what you can do about your situation.
There are plenty of books or go on the internet… Continue
Laura Berman, PhD, intelligent, beautiful, well spoken sex therapist was on Oprah November 3rd, 2008.
I was desperately jealous to see Dr. Berman on Oprah and not me. (Oprah’s producers called about fourteen months ago—one month before I gave birth to my son and for whatever reason things never worked out. It still smarts to think about the potential loss…)
So I hope what I'm about to say doesn’t come across as sour… Continue
Do couples have unrealistic expectation about sex -- and how do we deal with those expectations?
We live in a very sexualized society. In the last twenty five years we’ve come to value part of our self worth based on our sexuality and sexiness.
With women’s emancipation the ideal that sex was her wifely duty was tossed. She was given her orgasm and expected to enjoy sex with her sexual encounter—even though her burden was doubled with work and home life. It’s a sad… Continue
When a couple is first together, they have enough dopamine and the body’s own amphetamine-like hormones that they are sufficiently aroused in a nanosecond. So sex can last for three minutes and be mind blowing.
Generally though, after two years, it takes a woman a minimum fifteen minutes for her body to become sufficiently aroused. That is if she doesn’t have a million and one things going on in her head—her amygdale will disable… Continue
Here's an excerpt from a magazine interview I did on the benefits of kissing.
Does kissing do more than simply lead to sex?
One couple I know has a “10 second” kiss rule. That is when things are getting hectic with kids, career, life, one would say, “ten second kiss”. They would have to drop everything and kiss each other for, well, ten seconds. It was their way of not only finding a bit of couple time in their very hectic schedule, it also shifted their perspective from,… Continue
Added by Trina Read on October 28, 2008 at 7:32am —
After the honeymoon phase, many couples find it hard to stay emotionally and intimately connected outside the bedroom. When you don't stay connected outside the bedroom, it takes a lot longer to get relax and reconnect inside the bedroom.
If you are, like many, stuck for time, here are some easy to implement, long term habits a busy couple can do to bring the spark back to their relationship:
Three thirty-seconds (or less) a day to create a sexy moment.
Added by Trina Read on October 26, 2008 at 11:50am —