Trina Read's Blog – November 2008 Archive (5)

How to Talk to Your Partner About a Sexual Dysfuction

What are some practical ways couples can deal with their struggles in the bedroom?

It’s tremendously difficult for the average couple to talk about a sexual dysfunction—whether it is an erectile problem or an inability to orgasm. Your best first step is to educate yourself on what is going on with your body; then educate your partner and together have a conversation about what you can do about your situation.

There are plenty of books or go on the internet… Continue

Added by Trina Read on November 25, 2008 at 9:00am — 2 Comments

Why it is important to communicate about sexual difficulties

What happens if couples ignore erectile problems, a low or no sex drive, or difficulty reaching orgasm?

Quite simply, it can devastate even the most solid of couples.

When people lose touch with their sexuality and sensuality, the quintessential intimacy between a couple is lost. A marriage can function without sex but it cannot function without intimacy and touch.

Erectile problems usually are a big red flag that something is not working on the man’s body. For… Continue

Added by Trina Read on November 18, 2008 at 12:34pm — 1 Comment

Is Oprah’s Audience Really that Sexually Naïve?

Laura Berman, PhD, intelligent, beautiful, well spoken sex therapist was on Oprah November 3rd, 2008.

I was desperately jealous to see Dr. Berman on Oprah and not me. (Oprah’s producers called about fourteen months ago—one month before I gave birth to my son and for whatever reason things never worked out. It still smarts to think about the potential loss…)

So I hope what I'm about to say doesn’t come across as sour… Continue

Added by Trina Read on November 14, 2008 at 11:53am — 1 Comment

Do couples have unrealistic expectations about sex?

Do couples have unrealistic expectation about sex -- and how do we deal with those expectations?

We live in a very sexualized society. In the last twenty five years we’ve come to value part of our self worth based on our sexuality and sexiness.

With women’s emancipation the ideal that sex was her wifely duty was tossed. She was given her orgasm and expected to enjoy sex with her sexual encounter—even though her burden was doubled with work and home life. It’s a sad… Continue

Added by Trina Read on November 10, 2008 at 10:04am — 4 Comments

How long should good sex last?

How long does good sex really last?

When a couple is first together, they have enough dopamine and the body’s own amphetamine-like hormones that they are sufficiently aroused in a nanosecond. So sex can last for three minutes and be mind blowing.

Generally though, after two years, it takes a woman a minimum fifteen minutes for her body to become sufficiently aroused. That is if she doesn’t have a million and one things going on in her head—her amygdale will disable… Continue

Added by Trina Read on November 3, 2008 at 2:40pm — 1 Comment