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Not addressing relationship dynamics can break a couple…

It is not uncommon for couples to have the same recurring issues and arguments… If partners are not intentional and proactive about addressing the underlying reasons for these, they will continue to have them… Not addressing relationship dynamics can break a couple… Banging around unconscious as to who you really are, what really is driving you, what you really want and how this impacts interactions with your partner, is a sure way to…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on September 18, 2021 at 10:12am — No Comments

Excellent communication also helps increase our bonding

Communication skills and tools are not just necessary for getting on the same page, making joint decisions and problem solving effectively. They are also indispensable for more deeply understanding each other and warmly flowing in our interactions with our partner. Excellent communication also helps increase our bonding.

Feeling understood is an existential human need… In feeling that the other “gets” us, we feel Known and that we exist…

Feeling understood…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on September 12, 2021 at 4:22am — No Comments

Overwhelmed, how is your support and collaboration? (PT5)

It is not easy to live a successful and meaningful life. It takes intentionality, focus and dedication to stay the course. Our life Journey has ups and downs, and at times it can feel like an obstacle course. With the many demands of today’s modern life and specially recently as we’ve weathered a global pandemic, things can be challenging. It can be overwhelming to manage all the demands and responsibilities. This is why it’s so important to uplevel your support and…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on June 25, 2021 at 12:28pm — No Comments

Missing love, how is your connection and intimacy? (PT4)

Nobody likes to feel disconnected from their partner. Partners might like to have time to themselves and do their own thing. But they like to have that while still feeling connected. Feeling disconnected, not in a good place, not on the same page, not in alignment, not together or not close, intimate and special – doesn’t feel good. Missing love, how is your connection and intimacy?

We’ve already established that we have not only been in a Pandemic but also undergoing, and…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on June 17, 2021 at 8:05pm — No Comments

Repeating arguments, how are your relationship dynamics? (PT3)

It feels terrible when we have the same arguments over the same disagreements, over and over again… Doesn’t it? It’s so frustrating to feel like we are living in the twilight zone, or that we are having a Groundhog Day experience… It’s tough to know that we’ll have the same conversation without resolution, yet again. Feeling like beating your head against the wall? Having repeating arguments, how you’re your relationship dynamics?

Having the same fight,…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on June 10, 2021 at 6:57am — No Comments

Bickering and fighting, how are your communication skills? (Pt2)

Hey, we can all relate to being annoyed by our partner at one point or another. But sometimes this goes beyond our idiosyncrasies, quirks or habits. Sometimes we just pick, pick, pick and go around and around. We argue to make our point and prove ourselves right. We get into fights about how we are talking and arguing. And the fights might even escalate to epic proportions. There is no fun and love in that. I you are bickering and fighting, how are your communication skills? Have you…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on June 4, 2021 at 10:02am — No Comments

Feeling stuck, how is your relationship mindset? (Pt1)

If you are feeling stuck in your relationship, resentful, cranky, and easily annoyed by your partner, your relationship lens might be a bit smudged… Partners have a tendency to blame their partner for the status of the relationship and how unsatisfied and unhappy they might be… They tend to point fingers, get finicky and demanding or withdrawn and disengaged, and critical of their partner and their ways. Feeling stuck is usually a relationship mindset issue…

What is…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on May 28, 2021 at 6:41am — No Comments

Importance of personal and partner character strengths

It is uncommon to speak in terms of Mothering and Fathering in the context of our relationship… Unless of course we are talking about raising our children. But I’ve been presenting this concept as a way to continue to heal and grow ourselves. As a personal development tool, and more recently as a relationship…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on May 21, 2021 at 5:07am — No Comments

Create safety, security and trust in your relationship

A lot of people have difficulties having trust in their relationship, and in general… Mistrust in our relationship is not just about wondering, or obsessing about, if our partner is cheating. But not trusting our partner usually has the flavor of not trusting we can count on them. That they have our back. That they’ll pick up where we leave off. Whether or not they’ll follow through on what they say. If they’ll use their best judgement. And so on. It is imperative that we create safety,…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on May 13, 2021 at 2:14pm — No Comments

Mothering Vs Fathering

Mothering Vs Fathering… This is not a competition! First off, wishing all the Moms a very Happy Mother’s Day. And here is an invitation for all of us to embrace more Mothering in our own lives, of ourselves and our loved us. We can all stand to be more compassionate, nurturing and loving… Second, the key is finding a balance for these two characteristics within ourselves for a more integrated Human…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on May 7, 2021 at 9:37am — No Comments

Prevent drama with self-regulation and co-regulation

You know when you don’t feel so hot physically or emotionally, how you are more sensitive to most things? And, even more so with your partner and how they are being? The things that you would normally let go or that wouldn’t necessarily bother you, in this state they are actually experienced as micro aggressions. And, when this happens you are both thrown for a loop... You can prevent pain and drama with self-regulation and co-regulation.

What does that mean? Self-regulation…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on April 30, 2021 at 6:39am — No Comments

The key is embracing a relationship enrichment lifestyle… (Video)

Do you feel like you are spinning your wheels and getting nowhere fast in your life? Do you feel like your world got turned upside down and you don’t know what’s up or down? Do you feel exhausted and completely unmotivated? Do you feel like are banging around without purpose and alone? Do you feel disconnected from your partner and like you are both just floating around?

You are not alone. Imagine a gigantic hand grabbed the world this past year and shook it and shook it.…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on April 25, 2021 at 5:02am — No Comments

When you keep having the same fight…

Sometimes things don’t seem to be working out the way we’d prefer in our life and our relationship. We don’t lose the weight. We don’t get the promotion or hit our sales target. We haven’t gotten engaged yet. We keep having the same fight. There is a reason for this. The reason is that we are getting in our own way…

Now, I say with lots of love and compassion, for who wants to hear it’s their fault they are having a hard time. Right?

But the reality is that we…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on April 18, 2021 at 3:41am — No Comments

Implement pleasure and delight habits… (Video)

It is not uncommon for us to become so tunnel vision in our experience that we miss the forest for the tree. We focus on what’s not working, how we’ve been wronged, what we don’t like, how much we have to do, and all the miseries of life. We tend to overwork, neglect ourselves and our loved ones. We are far from living our Best Life and creating our Best Relationship… We can focus and work differently instead… And, we can implement pleasure and delight habits…

Why pleasure…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on April 11, 2021 at 3:31am — No Comments

our new beginning needs a communication cleanse

The conversation continues on having a refresh and reset, a renewal, on creating a new beginning, and on getting traction on our relationship and life transformation… Are you ready for newness? Let’s do it! To get traction with the new, we have to get rid of the old… Your new beginning needs a communication cleanse to set the right tone for the awesomeness that’s to come.

Today we’ll focus on how to clean up how you communicate in your relationship. I recently wrote…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on April 3, 2021 at 3:31am — No Comments

Relationship refresh and reset

New beginnings are super exciting, and this new season promises nothing less. Not only is it a new season, but it is also Springtime when things come alive. And, this Spring is meaningful as it marks a one-year anniversary of the still ongoing global pandemic but with it hope as the vaccine is being distributed. Newness is in the air. This is the perfect time for a relationship refresh and reset.

What is a relationship refresh and reset? A relationship refresh and reset is a…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on March 28, 2021 at 4:01am — No Comments

Spring into a new level in your relationship and life

Springtime is a time for renewal and New Beginnings… It is an opportunity to start fresh again. It is a time to refresh, course correct and reset. All changes in season and any new start, provide the opportunity for New Beginnings… Spring is special in this endeavor as the newness is so obvious with nature springing back to life… There is momentum in this… This is your chance to spring into a new level in your relationship and life…

Does that sound scary, or empowering and…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on March 20, 2021 at 4:01am — No Comments

Start anew with a good detox and spring clean!

Spring is almost here. Yay! Do you know what that means? It means it’s time to get ready for New Beginnings… As everything in nature will slowly be coming back to life and starting anew, so can we. We can take this opportunity to come Alive, to engage more with our life, to create new beginnings, to reset, to recharge… We can start anew in any area of our life we choose. The best way to start anew is with a good detox and spring clean!

We can’t build on rubble. We have to…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on March 13, 2021 at 3:29am — No Comments

Remove roadblocks to great communication

Great communication has to do with smoothing things out and feeling Aligned. It has to do with getting on the same page, feeling understood and accepted, and getting traction towards a vision in common. Unfortunately, partners get in their own way when interacting with each other which prevents the flow of joy, harmony and love that is possible when doing this well. Let’s remove the roadblocks to great communication. Shall we?

First off, be extremely careful not to…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on March 7, 2021 at 3:07am — No Comments

Great communication skills and tools are a must

One of the main roadblocks to creating a radiant and successful relationship is having poor communication skills and tools. Even if you believe you are a great communicator, you might not necessarily have the skills and tools needed to get on the same page with your partner… Great communication skills and tools are a must for succeeding at your relationship.

When I hear people say they are great communicators, a session from a long time ago come to mind. The…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on March 1, 2021 at 3:13am — No Comments

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Episode 617: The Right Time to Have a Child

CDC data highlights the number of births and specifically those that weren't wanted at the time of pregnancy. When is the right time? Dr. Karen Sherman shares her thoughts.





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