I have been remarried to someone for 6 yrs. he has 2 older children 25 and 28 and do not live with us and I have 2 children that are 17 and 21 that do live with us. The issue at hand is my husband doesn't feel like my children care about the rules he has put in place, some are such as: Clean the dishes they dirty, to always try to help out, to not eat anywhere else but the kitchen, not let the poodle on the furniture. There are no issues with curfews and such because they are well behaved and not interested in partying or staying out late. I admit they are lazy about doing these things, but my husband wants me to always be correcting them. I feel that they are just acting like kids or young adults and I should save the scolding for real important things they do wrong. He thinks I baby them and over look too much. At the same time they never get in trouble and are drug free kids. Am I slacking or does my husband have too high of expectations? Just this week we walked into the living room and the poodle was on the couch and he freaked out and thinks they don't respect him. My son was in the living room, but was trying to fix his contacts and didn't realize the dog was there, at least that what he said. But, I think my husband way over reacted. He gets upset if the garage door is down and they lift it to leave and leave it open (they don't have a garage door opener) He wants them to go out from the door to the house and they better have locked it back! I could go on, I'm frustated with always hearing him gripe about my kids. And I have not even begun to tell you what his son put me through when he lived with us as a teenager! By the way I love my husband very much! Any advise?