We're talking about how to "get back to the basics" around creating a lasting, solid relationship over time. This is the sixth post in my Hitched series on premarital tips for married couples who either never learned - or have forgotten how to keep the foundation under their "marriage house" as strong as possible. They are the guide posts I describe in The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples, a workbook for married couples to do together to help bridge the gap between them.
6 ) Explore Your Marriage Logistics and Roles: Are both of you satisfied with the inner workings of your marriage? Sometimes couples can benefit from looking at the logistics of their marriage to assess whether any changes might be beneficial.
Having this type of discussion is a great way to be sure that there is no resentment building up on either side of the marriage. It's far better to "clear the air" and have an open dialogue than to allow frustrations to mount. Also, over a long period of time being married, what "worked" before possibly doesn't anymore. Check it out and make adjustments for the lasting health of your marrige.
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Lisa Brookes Kift is a Marriage and Family Therapist and author of The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples, a cost effective, do-it-yourself, therapist-guided alternative to couples counseling. Follow Lisa on Twitter or Facebook.
Lisa's therapy practice is located in Marin County, California. Learn more about her work with individuals and couples at www.MarinTherapyandCounseling.com.
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