We're talking about how to "get back to the basics" of creating a lasting, solid marriage over time. This is the fourth post in my Hitched series on premarital tips for married couples who either never learned - or have forgotten how to keep the foundation under their "marriage house" as strong as possible. They are the guide posts I describe in The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples, a workbook for married couples to do together to help bridge the gap between them.
4) Explore Your Marriage Balance: Couples who are out of balance can struggle with a number of individual and relationship issues. I'm referring to the "you," "me" and "we" of your marriage. If you and your spouse are not satisfied with the way things are balanced, you might benefit from making some adjustments.
It's natural for dynamics and other elements to shift in a marriage over time. It's important to occasionally re-assess how things are working for both of you in the scheme of things, so you both feel cared for and fulfilled.
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Lisa Brookes Kift is a Marriage and Family Therapist and author of The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples, a cost effective, do-it-yourself, therapist-guided alternative to couples counseling. Follow Lisa on Twitter or Facebook.
Lisa's therapy practice is located in Marin County, California. Learn more about her work with individuals and couples at www.MarinTherapyandCounseling.com.
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