We're talking about how to "get back to the basics" around creating a lasting, solid relationship over time. This is the second post in my Hitched series on premarital tips for married couples who either never learned - or have forgotten how to keep the foundation under their "marriage house" as strong as possible. They are the guide posts I describe in The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples, a workbook for married couples to do together to help bridge the gap between them.
2. Strengthen your communication skills.
There's a great saying that goes something like this: "Communication is to a relationship like water is to a plant." Couples who have stopped talking can grow further and further apart - until it almost seems like the distance is insurmountable. I often get couples into my therapy practice who are like passing ships in the night where life is so hectic with family and work - that they forget to nurture their connection. Scheduling a weekly check-in with each other is one way to start to bridge this. Date nights are another great way. Once you're at least connecting, the basics of communication include brushing up on (or learning) active listening and healthy conflict resolution skills.
Check back next week for the third step in "getting back to the basics" of creating a lasting marriage...
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Lisa Brookes Kift is a Marriage and Family Therapist and author of The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples, a cost effective, do-it-yourself, therapist-guided alternative to couples counseling. Follow Lisa on Twitter or Facebook.
Lisa's therapy practice is located in Marin County, California. Learn more about her work with individuals and couples at www.MarinTherapyandCounseling.com.
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