Have you ever had an instinctive "knowing" that your relationship is more than simply a connection with another person? That there is a purpose in that connection? That it's a natural channel for attracting what you want in life, whatever that means for you - being cherished, good health, a successful business, healthy finances? Donna and I know this is true and have experienced, it so we want to tell you about it.
I'm sure you've all heard of the blockbuster documentary "The Secret" which explained how to make the Law of Attraction work in your life. In a nutshell, the teachers in that film say the process involves:
1) Knowing what you want (being in touch with desire);
2) Asking for it;
3) Being grateful before you get it ("An attitude of gratitude.");
4) Staying out of the "how" of it (i.e., how it will show up);
5) Being willing to receive it.
A Personal Story
But what happens when you boost this natural creative energy by supplementing it with the emotional bond that exists between men and women in relationship? Donna and I believe it creates a sort of a "super-charged" connection with the Universe, like an amplifier boosting the power of an electrical signal. It boosts couples' natural ability to pull what they want into their lives.
Sound a little hokey? Let's bring it down to earth. For the last year or so Donna has endured a chronic and annoying health issue. About a month ago Donna was upset and frustrated that the problem wasn't getting better and that all the medical avenues for dealing with it seemed exhausted. Donna also felt strongly about using an alternative treatment, like homeopathy, rather pharmaceuticals.
How does this fit into the Law of Attraction steps listed above? First, Donna's desire was clear - to get rid of the problem naturally as soon as possible. Next, Donna's frustration was her "request" for me to help. In that moment I resolved that we would find a solution. For me that meant creating additional revenue to easily cover the cost of whatever form of treatment Donna wanted. I didn't know how this would happen, but I was committed to it.
The combination of Donna's clear desire and my focused commitment and willingness to act was powerful. That same day, Donna found online a simple natural remedy that has had promising results. Over the next few days two businesses contacted us for possible partnerships. Those contacts sparked a vision for a new venture we will be launching later this year. I also got clear on a new product we will be offering in coming months. I wasn't specifically working towards any of these, but I was focused and committed to a result... any result... in alignment with Donna's desire. P-O-W-E-R-F-U-L stuff!
The moment my energy aligned with Donna's the Universe started to respond.
Science Says the Gender Effect is Real and Measurable
Research from Princeton University's Princeton Engineering Anomalies Research Lab (PEAR Lab) shows this is more than just wishful thinking or coincidence. In numerous experiments between 1979 and 2007 PEAR researchers Robert Jahn and Brenda Dunne discovered that when "bonded" couples (i.e., couples in relationship) tried to influence the output of an electronic random number generator using only their thoughts, their joint effort yielded average effects more than twice those of "unbonded" pairs and nearly six times greater than when men and women intended separately.
According to one analyst, "Jahn and Dunne suggested that emotional closeness might create resonance between individuals, and result in stronger influence, just as two waves that are in phase or sync amplify a signal."
Emotional Closeness + Resonance = Creative Power
If that quote seems like a bunch of scientific mumbo jumbo, you missed it. Failing to get the point of this quote is why relationships so often occur to people as unsatisfying, shallow, without purpose and frustrating... and why so many relationships fail. Read it again, and look for the deeper cut.
Did you see it this time? Emotional closeness creates resonance which results in stronger influence.
Here's what you need to get. Emotional closeness is just the first step. Resonance, or vibrational harmony with your partner follows. The result is an amplified connection to the Universe that gives you stronger influence for creating what you want for your life.
For most people, creating emotional closeness is all there is in relationship. It's not just the first step, but the only step. It's what they think "relationship" is for. It's great in the beginning when new love makes life sparkle and crackle. This energy is powerful. A friend of ours told us about a colleague who took their company by storm, becoming the number one sales rep almost immediately after being hired. He was also newly married. Coincidence?
Within a year or so this sales rep's numbers fell off dramatically. Later it was discovered that this decline in production coincided with a very rough time in his relationship that threatened the marriage. That's what can happen when the light of love dims and there is nothing new to keep it burning. Other areas of life suffer too. That's exactly why Donna and I do what we do. The Divine Dance is about helping couples stay in sync so they can re-ignite that emotional spark almost at will and maintain the resonance that produces amazing lives.
The Law of Attraction Between Men and Women
But how does this work? Why did couples that participated in the PEAR experiments produce a stronger influence than men and women who are not in relationship or than men and women separately?
The "emotional resonance" of couples mentioned above is key. Feelings are powerful.
Donna and I believe more is going on. In a nutshell, here it is. Men and women are different. Women are desire. Men are about production. When men and women act according to who they are naturally - i.e., women are clear on their desire and men are committed to focused action - they are in alignment with the Universe's intent. This is powerful stuff.
So we could modify the above process for how the Law of Attraction works, to explain how it works between men and women like this:
1) Women become clear about what they want (their desire);
2) They ask their partner for it in some way;
3) They are grateful before they get it (Show they believe in their partner);
4) They don't worry about "how" it will show up. They don't let the "how" interfere with their experience;
5) Men commit to focused action to achieve the result (commitment and action are a form of "willingness to receive").
Implicit in this post is that using the Law of Attraction for relationships isn't just about attracting a great relationship. It's deeper and broader than that. It's about working with your partner to create the life you want. It's about an energy that exists between You, your Partner and the Universe and how to maximize it. It's our purpose to show people through our workshops how to create relationships that maximize this natural power in their lives.
If you have ever experienced the Law of Attraction working in your life through your relationship please take a moment and leave a comment. Thank you and take care.
About the Authors: Jason Krausert, MA and Donna Tosky, CBP co-facilitate the "Between Men and Women" couples wellness weekends and retreats, the "Gender Gym" Experiential Workshop and the "Celebrating the Sabotress" tele-series. They are authors, regular contributors to Corporate Wellness Magazine and are featured experts for the Love Her Right relationship forum. Their free ebook, "A Couple's Map to Everyday Wellness" can be downloaded by clicking here: Everyday Wellness
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