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Do you find that your interactions with your partner include some of the following?

  • Poor or no eye-contact
  • Giving of the back or talking to the back
  • Talking to the air
  • Not responding, acknowledging or answering questions
  • Dismissing
  • Shutting down, ignoring
  • Withholding
  • Lying
  • Rejecting
  • Forgetting
  • Denying
  • Shrugging of shoulders
  • Rolling of eyes, giving the evil eye or staring down, huffing and puffing, sighing, sucking teeth
  • Leaving, walking/turning away, or truncating discussions
  • Cutting the other off, interrupting
  • Bickering
  • Tit-for-tat, score keeping
  • Challenging for the sake of being right
  • Changing the subject, refusing to discuss topics
  • Criticizing, controlling, owning, demanding, picking
  • Trying to change the other’s mind, perspective or view
  • Persuading, cajoling, nagging
  • Third degree interrogations
  • Wanting to know everything that is on the other’s mind
  • Not respecting privacy or personal “space”
  • Smothering
  • Taking over
  • Insulting, cursing
  • Yelling
  • Throwing, hitting or breaking things and/or hitting each other
  • Involving others

If you identified with the list and find that some or a lot of these are present in your relationship, then – STOP IT! This form of communicating and interacting is hugely detrimental to the relationship and each of your wellbeing. It disrupts your attunement and ruptures your connection. It disregulates you.  It re- injures, traumatizes and wounds you. It makes you feel crazy. It creates a vicious negative cycle of interaction that is hurtful, harmful and dissatisfying. It holds you back from your personal and relational potential. It holds you back from Being You, being alive, living your authentic successful relationship and life.

Research indicates that relationships that are plagued with negative interactions are doomed to fail. Do not let this be your relationship! Instead create the loving, nurturing, supportive, and wonderful relationship you dream of and deserve.

Start by noticing how often you employ this negative form of communication and its outcome. Notice how you feel disconnected, disrupted and discontent… Catch yourself reacting and interacting this way. Gently remind yourself this is not how you want your relating to be and how this does not meet your needs. Give yourself permission to try something different. Be kind and attuned, respectful. Interact from your authentic self (not your defense mechanisms). Stop reacting and start responding – stop the negative vicious cycle today!

Happy Responding!!


~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment

Share the list above with your partner and invite them to also become aware of how you each employ negative forms of communication and interaction.  Make a deal to each mind your own reactions and start becoming more responsive.


~ Share Your Thoughts & Successes in the comment box at the end!

Take a moment now to share below any thoughts, comments, take away, tips, and successes! PLEASE post a comment now – we grow in community!

Thanks for connecting with the MetroRelationship™ Family!


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