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our new beginning needs a communication cleanse

The conversation continues on having a refresh and reset, a renewal, on creating a new beginning, and on getting traction on our relationship and life transformation… Are you ready for newness? Let’s do it! To get traction with the new, we have to get rid of the old… Your new beginning needs a communication cleanse to set the right tone for the awesomeness that’s to come.

Today we’ll focus on how to clean up how you communicate in your relationship. I recently wrote about Communication Roadblocks that get in the way of your Radiant and Successful Relationship.

Let’s make it our business to remove these from our interactions. Let’s do a communication cleanse. But let’s make sure this is not just a quick cleanse but a new way of showing up to our relationship and interactions with our partner (and other loves ones!) going forward.

Here is the list of The Dirty Dozen of Communication. These are roadblocks to communication, to getting on the same page and aligning in your relationship.

  • Addressing needs or concerns when triggered
  • Using electronic devices as modes of communication
  • Addressing issues on the fly
  • Starting conversations when not in a good state
  • Disregarding good communication skills and tools
  • Forcing conversations
  • Not really listening, paying attention or taking in the other
  • Not having personal accountability and ownership
  • Track-jumping and messy content
  • Making a federal case
  • Being aggressive in speech, attitude or behavior
  • Patronizing in some form…

When we are not mindful and intentional of how we show up and how we interact with our partner, and others, we are bound to be messy in that exchange. We might be going about our business and just being ourselves, when we realize that an exchange is not going well. That we are showing up with The Dirty Dozen of Communication.

At that point the damage has been done and now the rest of the exchange needs to tend to it. What happens a lot of times is that partners are not even aware that the exchange is starting to go south, and they keep on going. They end up doing more damage.

Or they are stubborn. They realize the exchange is not going well, and they try to regroup without changing their approach! In this case they also end up doing more damage.

This observation doesn’t mean that we can’t let our hair down, be spontaneous or be ourselves… In the contrary, this observation points out that we are showing up with our messy, unintentional, defense ridden, not conscious self… We are showing up with our Small Self…

Instead, when we connect first with our Big Self, our Authentic Self, our Higher Self, we then automatically go into an interaction with more grace, mindfulness, intentionality, respect, acceptance, understanding, and other good stuff.

Communicating well doesn’t have to be that challenging:

  • The first order of business is to connect and align with ourselves first… From here the rest is much easier…
  • The next order of business is to avoid doing The Dirty Dozen of Communication.

This 3-Step Approach to Great Communication is the key for preventing fights, easily getting on the same page and for aligning with each other.

To honor our current refresh, reset and renew theme let’s target Step 2 and be super proactive about removing Communication Roadblocks still present in our interactions.

Your new beginning needs a communication cleanse to set the right tone for the awesomeness that’s to come. Cleanse your communication of the pesky behaviors that undermine your relationship.

ASSIGNMENT: Let’s make a dent in cleansing your communication style!

  • Select 5 Communication Roadblocks from The Dirty Dozen of Communication list to target and purge from your interactions.
  • Set a weekly reminder on your phone to check yourself on these so they don’t make their way back…
  • Keep targeting the other Dirty Dozen until they are all gone…
  • Stay intentional about not allowing them back!

As with anything, when you bring consciousness, focus and attention to something, Awesomeness happens. I wish this for you in your life and your relationship.

Wishing you much joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!


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