You: “I’m not in the mood. Just go to sleep. I’ve got a headache.”
Him: “You’re never in the mood.” Rolls over. “Jeez, you’re giving me a headache.”
Remember the classic scene in “Annie Hall”? Where the gal tells her therapist “We have sex all the time – twice a week!” and the guy tells his therapist “We never have sex – only twice a week!”
Getting on the same “in the mood” wavelength isn’t always easy. But if you’re gonna keep your marital body and soul together, it helps to give “the mood” a little nudge.
More often than not, you’ll find that starting your intimate dance – whatever that is for the 2 of you – gets the mood going.
(Hint: for a lot of couples, long lingering kisses are a great mood-starter.)
And if it doesn’t, disengaging with kisses and whispered endearments is a lot more satisfying than a headache from either of you . . .
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