Question: What kind of effect are online flirtations having on couple relationships? What advice do you offer to couples who want to have fun in social spaces but don’t want to torpedo their own relationships?
Dr. Trina: My best advice is: if you can’t tell your partner what you’re up to then don’t do it. If you can chat easily about the flirtation then it should be okay.
I would suggest never do anything outside of your relationship in secrecy. It’s only going to blow up in your face—even if what you are doing is perfectly innocent. Secrecy is seen, justifiably, as lying.
Every partnership has their own value system around what constitutes an acceptable flirtation. You need to have a conversation with your partner with what is acceptable and not acceptable. Once the ground rules are set, flirtations become easy.