You: “He doesn’t pay the bills on time, he forgets to open the mail, it’s nuts!”
Your girlfriend: “All men are children, what ya gonna do?”
Except they’re not, and if you start treating your guy like a child, he’ll either bolt or turn into a passive wimp.
Not a pretty picture.
People are a combination of traits that fit together, a “personality style.” If your guy doesn’t pay the bills on time and forgets to open the mail, he’s probably a laid-back spontaneous guy with a big heart and a ready smile. Or a visionary constantly wondering the bigger questions: Where do we come from? How do the planets form? How do you build a bigger better Harley?
The point is, if you love enough of who he is, quit dunning him for who he isn’t, and problem-solve together so the administrative portion of your marriage doesn’t overwhelm the love and “isn’t he great” portion.
Which, after all, is the point of this whole love thing, isn’t it?
All together now – YES!
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