You: Sobbing. “He cheated on me! I can’t believe he cheated on me!”
Your girlfriend: “Oh that’s horrible! You should leave him right away!”
Maybe. But maybe not. Through the big dark ugly cloud of infidelity, there may be a silver lining. . .
Affairs are often a cry for help, an acting out of the unhappiness or distress your man is feeling but hasn’t been able to talk about.
So before you pack your bags and storm out, see if you can sit down and talk with your guy – calmly, without hysterics or wild ravings. Out of this (often ongoing) conversation, you may find trouble spots in your marriage that can be worked through, finding that silver lining of deeper understanding and renewed commitment to each other.
Get help to do so, there are fine counselors of all types available.
Silver linings are so worth it . . .
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