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Are Fantasies Realistic for Most Couples?

Fantasies are an easy way to add incredible zest to any sexual encounter. Best of all they’re fun, easy and free.

Although I wholeheartedly encourage any couple to undertake and integrate fantasy as part of their love making, I wonder how realistic it is. It seems to me couples who struggle just to keep sex going on a semi-regular basis might feel overwhelmed to introduce such adventure.

As such, I want to take a poll. My question: Is fantasy something you would like to have in your sex life?

However, it’s been my experience that it’s usually the people who are having great sex lives that include fantasy play who are comfortable enough to answer; or people who are vehemently opposed to the idea.

I really hope the average person reading this can give me their point of view.

If bringing a fantasy into your bedroom is something you’re interested in, here’s some easy ideas:
(1) Some fantasies are better left in your imagination as they are too intricate to act out. Many men often fantasize about a threesome and are inevitably disappointed when it doesn’t turn out like their well choreographed daydream.

However, if your fantasy is about seducing the FedEx guy when he delivers a ‘package’ to your door, then by all means go for it.

(2) If you’ve never acted out a fantasy before, it’s important to talk it through with your partner. And, hey, just talking about it will make you both hot and horny.

(3) Make a date. As this is your fantasy, you need to do all the leg work—i.e. buy outfits, accoutrements, etc.—to set it up. Then give your partner very detailed instructions of how you want the fun to unfold.

(4) Finally, let the party begin. Don’t be surprised if it takes a few tries before you feel comfortable enough to lose yourself in the fantasy. Don’t give up. If you stick to it soon enough you’ll be lost in hot sex land.


Please let me know your thoughts on fantasies.

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Comment by Dawn on September 4, 2009 at 9:33pm
I love the idea of fantasies in the bedroom! Most of the time it's in my head because how do I really tell my spouse that I am fantasizing about someone else?? He spends a lot of time on porn sites and I know that in the dark he is probably fantasizing about one of those girls too, although he would never admit it. I plan to try some role playing very soon, however. I think I should be able to coax him into it :)

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