It’s important when contemplating a man’s erogenous zones, to think outside the “penis box”.
Yes, of course, men want to experience maximum penis-love, however, when you branch out to other parts of his body it gives both of you the opportunity to experience a sense of erotica. Erotica being the holy grail of sizzling sex.
Erogenous zones you probably already know:His Penis: The 1/3—2/3 rule.
The first third (or head/ glans) of a man’s penis has the maximum amount of nerve endin… Continue
Added by Trina Read on November 11, 2009 at 8:16am —
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Is it true that women reach their sexual peak in their 30s?
No, there isn’t a decade when a woman reaches her sexual peak.
Dr. Alfred Kinsey book’s Sexual Behavior in the Human Female published in 1953 started this rumor. In the 1940s Kinsey took the sex histories of over 5,000 women and found that the majority hit their sexual stride mid-thirties. As premarital sex was a no-no, by her mid-thirties a woman had been married with a few kids and was therefore less sexually inhibited.… Continue
Added by Trina Read on September 25, 2009 at 9:53am —
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Are you always too tired for sex?
I'm sorry to say this but it is an old belief system that has become a well accepted excuse for women to not want sex.
No doubt, there are many times when a woman/ couple is too tired to have sex. Generally though, being tired shouldn’t equate to a person’s motivation to have sex—a.k.a. sexual desire.
(Analogy: Some women feel she has gained weight because of pregnancy. While the dramatic increase in weight over 9 months, plus all the hormones does impact a wo… Continue
Added by Trina Read on September 12, 2009 at 7:39am —
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Fantasies are an easy way to add incredible zest to any sexual encounter. Best of all they’re fun, easy and free.
Although I wholeheartedly encourage any couple to undertake and integrate fantasy as part of their love making, I wonder how realistic it is. It seems to me couples who struggle just to keep sex going on a semi-regular basis might feel overwhelmed to introduce such adventure.
As such, I want to take a poll. My question:Is fantasy something you would like to have in your… Continue
I popped in on my colleague, Susan Naylen Sorrell, who owns a wonderful, mom-friendly sex shop in Calgary called, A Little More Interesting.
With a mischievous glint in her eye she said, “Trina, you have to watch this!” And sent me home to review, the Pirates 2 Stagnetti’s Revenge; a four disk porn epilogue that is a spoof on The Pirates of the Caribbean series.*
Upon arriving home, my thirteen month old needed his nap and I threw… Continue
While speaking at the Taboo Sex Show, a colleague mentioned a discussion with her morning waiter from our hotel restaurant. When he found out what she was selling at the show, he confessed no woman he has met was “perfect” enough for him.
As such he decided the best compromise was to buy a perfectly proportioned blow up doll. Problem was it was going to cost him $10,000 USD plus. He had been saving from his two waitering jobs since and had almost come up with the entire amount. He was eagerly a… Continue
Is your vagina fully aroused before you start having intercourse?
Women (and men) assume that because she’s had an orgasm that her orgasmic platform is properly aroused. It’s usually not the case. It takes the average woman between 10 to 15 minutes for her orgasmic platform to fully engorge with blood (a man's penis takes approximately 30 seconds to one minute). The average couple sex lasts for 10 to 12 minutes, meaning sex is usually over just as she's getting properly aroused.
When in… Continue
Added by Trina Read on June 7, 2009 at 1:55pm —
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Did you know...
Doing Kegels for two minutes a day will raise both his and her arousal, desire and make for bigger, better orgasms.
Just like any muscle in your body, if you don't 'exercise' your vaginal canal or penis, those muscles will begin to atrophy. Doing Kegels daily brings blood flow to those areas and increases awareness, which makes it easier to become aroused. And because you're exercising those muscles, your orgasms will become stronger.
Kegels are definitely a win/ win pr… Continue
Added by Trina Read on May 10, 2009 at 11:33am —
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Hey Dr. Trina!
Since my ex (5-6 years ago) I have had trouble letting go and having orgasms. Some background is that I used to have no trouble having orgasms on top riding a man, but then he said it has always been uncomfortable for him. This was two years into our relationship and I took it very personally. I have never been able to orgasm with oral sex but only started enjoying oral sex with my last boyfriend.
The long and short is that I can't orgasm with a man unless I use a vibrator. I hav… Continue
Added by Trina Read on April 12, 2009 at 9:51am —
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Here's a very interesting reader question:
“My new boyfriend doesn’t like to give oral sex. I don’t think I’ll be very satisfied without it, but I don’t want to pressure him to do something he doesn’t want to do! How do I handle this?”
My Response: I would bet that he either doesn’t feel very confident in his oral sex ability or he had a bad experience that turned him off of giving oral sex.
You need to have a conversation, outside the bedroom, to find if it is either. Was he given nega… Continue
Added by Trina Read on March 15, 2009 at 10:29am —
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How hysteria was once treated…
Vibrators got their start during the industrial revolution as medical devices and were used to treat hysteria in women. Hysteria was a catchall diagnosis that included a wide array of women’s medical complaints, from simple irritability to debilitating physical weakness. Many medical experts believed these symptoms were caused by a prolonged lack of sexual gratification. Ironic given that acceptable sexual relationship existed only within marriage and was performe… Continue
Glow magazine has me as their sex expert. This month's question is: “My partner wants me to talk dirty but I find it really embarrassing. I’d like to try it for him, but where do I start?”My Answer:
The rules around dirty talk: Start small and go slow.
Talking about sex is something most people don’t have any practice at. So it’s the lack of practice that is making you nervous.
Before the sexual encounter practice what you are going to say: y… Continue
Added by Trina Read on March 1, 2009 at 8:56am —
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Question: What kind of effect are online flirtations having on couple relationships? What advice do you offer to couples who want to have fun in social spaces but don’t want to torpedo their own relationships?
Dr. Trina: My best advice is: if you can’t tell your partner what you’re up to then don’t do it. If you can chat easily about the flirtation then it should be okay.
I would suggest never do anything outside of your relationship in secrecy. It’s only going to blow up… Continue
Added by Trina Read on February 22, 2009 at 10:05am —
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While doing a book signing at my local downtown book store, Global TV came in to do a story on my book. Very fun to watch the customer's reactions!
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Here are more questions from my interview with The Stephen and Chris Show.
Chris: What’s the difference between single woman sex and married woman sex?My Answer: When you think about how the average person learns to have sex, it was a short time period encompassing a small amount of knowledge. That limited learning is what we take and use for the rest of our lives. This single-sex formula works great when we are single for a number of… Continue
Added by Trina Read on February 8, 2009 at 6:33am —
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The second question Chris, from The Stephen and Chris Show, asked me was why I wrote my book.
Here's my answer:
I wrote this book because of my own sexual difficulties after only a few years of marriage. I knew the minute I met my husband that he was “the one” and everything about our relationship, including the sex, was amazing. Yet three years after getting married our sex life became almost non-existent.
Naturally, I went to my library of… Continue
Added by Trina Read on February 1, 2009 at 7:49am —
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While on my Canadian media tour to promote my book, Till Sex Do Us Part, I was on a popular TV show, The Stephen and Chris Show.
Chris the host is delightful and we had a great time discussing my book and other sexual matters.
Go to my Till Sex Do Us Part website to order your copy. Continue
Added by Trina Read on January 29, 2009 at 6:42am —
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Glow magazine has asked me to be their resident sex expert. Here is a reader question you'll find in an upcoming issue.
Glow Reader Question: “Is there any contraceptive buying etiquette? It just seems unfair that birth control costs so much more than condoms!”
My Response: I haven’t heard of any birth control etiquette per se, however common sense can direct this situation.
If you’re single and have just started seeing your beau, it’s up to each individual… Continue
Added by Trina Read on January 25, 2009 at 9:06am —
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My next book, Till Sex Do Us Part: Make Your Married Sex Irresistible has been released. Yahoo!
In this video you'll find out why I wrote my book and, more importantly, what a woman will learn when she reads it.
Go to my website, Till Sex Do Us Part where you can read an excerpt from Chapter one to get a preview.
Many thanks to Hitchedmag for being such magnificent supporters of my book. You rock! Continue
Added by Trina Read on December 28, 2008 at 9:00am —
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I'm the guest Sex Expert for the Canadian Glow magazine. From January to March I will answer four reader questions. Here's the first.
Glow Question:
“I dreamt that I cheated on my boyfriend with an ex and I feel awful! What does this mean?”My Answer
It’s not just men having wet dreams—women have sex dreams too. Some dreams get so hot and heavy women can achieve orgasm…hopefully she remembers when she wakes up. Otherwise she’ll wake up feeling pleasant and won’t know why. Shame r… Continue
Dr. Noelle Nelson discusses how anger can inhibit your problem solving skills that keep you and your spouse fighting. Also, be sure to find out who won the Toad to Prince contest visit www.toadtoprince.com. For more go to www.hitchedmag.com
