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Shape Your Life Up: Tell Yourself the (Desired) Truth!

Ack!! Your computer is acting up—again—and despite hitting “escape” and every other “get-me-outta-here” key you can think of,  you’re in frozen hell. “I hate this computer!” you mutter. Your co-worker glances over at you, “That’s what you always say. Maybe you should try talking pretty to it.” You snort, “Right! And the computer can hear me and will suddenly unlock itself. I’ll bet you still believe in Santa Claus.” Your co-worker shrugs: “Works for me.”


You grumble and…


Added by Noelle Nelson on March 30, 2012 at 3:28pm — No Comments

Why Success and Gossip Don’t Mix

You know how it goes. You’re huddled around the coffee machine, riveted, listening to a co-worker’s latest rendition of “and then Tom texted Thea saying she was a conniving . ..”


Oh, the fun of office gossip! Oh, the titillation and subversive thrill that comes out of “I know something about you that you don’t know that I know… and I’ve made sure all the with-it people know and ha-ha doesn’t that make me smart and you dumb!” Sometimes it’s not even something real –…


Added by Noelle Nelson on February 29, 2012 at 4:57pm — No Comments

Don’t “Do” Valentine’s Day – Be it!

You run from store to store looking for that perfect Valentine’s Day gift, the one that will truly express how you feel about your love. And be something she or he will really likes.

Right. That last part’s a bit of a problem. The things your beloved will really like may be way outside your pocket-book, so back you go into the mall – or into a more intensive web-search.

Then of course, there’s shopping for the perfect Valentine Day experience, because heaven knows, going to…


Added by Noelle Nelson on January 30, 2012 at 4:33pm — No Comments

Make A Different Kind of New Year’s Resolution

You know your usual litany of New Year’s resolutions: “This year I’m gonna lose 5 – 10 -50 pounds. This year I swear I’ll get to the gym at least twice a week. This year I absolutely positively will not spend past my credit limit. This year I swear I’ll never have another ginger Martini (given the consequences of your last bout with said delectable beverage).

It’s your standard January 1 list most years – and it’s a great list!

But how about if instead of – or in addition to -…


Added by Noelle Nelson on December 28, 2011 at 12:22pm — No Comments

Tame the Holiday Perfection Grinch

You’ve made your list, you’ve checked it twice. Oh, no, not that list – I’m talking about the list you’ve made of the 1022 ½ things you need to get done for the Holidays, everything from the perfect gift for Cousin Henry, to the perfect surprise for your sweetheart, to the perfect outfit for that Holiday get-together, to the perfect menu for the Holiday meal, to the perfect cleaning of your home so your oh-so-imperfect relatives will approve . . . the list goes on.


As you…


Added by Noelle Nelson on December 1, 2011 at 12:04pm — No Comments

The “Just One” Secret to Fitness

You stare at the digital read-out on your scale, unbelieving. 10 pounds?! How could you possibly have gained 10 pounds? You eat like a bird! Nothing but fruits and nuts and veggies. Of course there was that pasta dish the other night. And the irresistible danish at work. And the simply sublime butter sauce on the . . . OK, all right. So you’re eating more than just fruits and nuts and veggies. But 10 pounds?!


You swear yourself into your too-tight gym clothes, force yourself…


Added by Noelle Nelson on October 31, 2011 at 6:16pm — No Comments

Stop! I’m Decision-ed Out

You love your Smartphone, your laptop, your car’s navigational device, your programmable oven, TV, and all the rest of your modern day devices. They make life so much easier in so many respects! You can communicate with anyone anytime, by phone, by text, by videochat. You can Google all sorts of information instantly! You can compare prices online for virtually any product at any time of day or night. You can figure out which TV programs you want to record weeks ahead of time. You wish your…


Added by Noelle Nelson on September 29, 2011 at 9:09am — No Comments

Let Your Best Self Carry the Relationship Day!

You’re going along hunky-dory through your day. You’ve had the occasional work-challenge: a co-worker who was late with their side of things, so you had to scramble. Your boss laid an unexpected deadline on you – yikes! - but you rose to the occasion and handled the situation with a good attitude.

And you were quite forgiving when the dry-cleaners mixed up your clothes with someone else’s batch, and had to wait, twiddling your thumbs (cell battery dead, phooey),while they sorted it… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on September 1, 2011 at 12:58pm — No Comments

Want More Job Kudos? Supercharge Your Work!

You’ve got your work down to a system. You’ve been doing it long enough so that you know what to do, how to do it, and get your assigned tasks and duties done well (for the most part) and on time (for the most part), regardless of whether you’re assigning your “to-dos” to yourself or you have a boss who does that. You get that cost-of-living increase most years, or your customer base grows a little every year, so all should be well.


Yet you’re plagued by an undercurrent of…


Added by Noelle Nelson on August 2, 2011 at 8:07am — No Comments

Heart Fails To Flutter

Why do you get this sinking sensation when you look over at your husband one morning and your heart fails to flutter? What if you're not in love with him anymore?

A woman calls her friend, panicked. "I don't think I'm in love with my husband anymore!" "What happened, " her friend asks. "I don't know," the woman wails, "I look at him and all I see is this guy who happens to be my husband – I don't get tingly or happy or anything." Oh my," her friend says, "Maybe it's that… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on July 7, 2011 at 10:05pm — No Comments

Win the Battle, Lose the Love

You throw the credit card bill in the middle of the kitchen table with a victorious flourish. Ta-da! You were right. HE’s the one who maxed out the card. HE’s the one who spent needless dollars on some foolish whats-it that wasn’t in the budget. HE’s the one who puts his selfish needs above the good of the family. HE…well, HE walked out of the room. Fine, who cares. You gloat happily.


Or SHE’s the one who drank all the OJ and didn’t replace it. SHE’s the one who can’t load a…


Added by Noelle Nelson on June 29, 2011 at 4:33pm — No Comments

Husband Resents Time With Kids

Why does your husband get cranky when you spend time with the kids? Why is he so demanding of your time when he knows you don’t have any!?

A woman laments: “I don’t get it, Mom, he sees me dealing with the kids – diapering one, holding the other back from hitting the cat, and chasing the third down before he runs naked into the street - and all my husband does is get home from work, plop into the couch and complain “We never go out anymore”?!” “Men are like that,” her Mom says… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on June 20, 2011 at 9:51pm — No Comments

Bad to Worse Day - Now What?!

Why is it that when one thing goes wrong, it seems everything starts to go wrong? It’s like you wake up on the wrong side of the bed and somehow it’s all downhill from there?

I’m at the vet, waiting to get my dog’s annual checkup – not his favorite thing,  although he likes all the face to face with cats, and iguanas and other strange beasts  – when a German Shepherd sweeps in, dragging his poor owner barely hanging on to the leash,  behind him. “Rex, stop,” she’s imploring, not that… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on June 10, 2011 at 1:34pm — No Comments

Is it Your Mood or Your Attitude?

The baby cried half the night, you couldn’t soothe her, the two hours sleep you got left you cranky and out of sorts when you got up to go to work. Or perhaps it was that tooth that’s been bothering you that kept you tossing and turning, or your mate who snored incessantly, or the neighbors’ partying that kept you miserably staring at the ceiling, until you finally took a sleeping pill and woke up groggy and uncomfortable this morning.

Then of course you had to rush to get out of the… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on June 1, 2011 at 6:38pm — No Comments

Glamour of Business Travel… Uh-Huh

Why is it the first thing you think of when your sweetheart says he has to travel on business is "What about me?" Why is that narcissistic yelp the first thing out of your mouth? Why, no matter how good your relationship is, do you instantly visualize abandonment?

I'm washing my dog at one of those do-it-yourself places, and in the tub next to me is a St. Bernard, whose owners are having this not-too-happy discussion. The guy is saying "But it's just for 3 weeks, honey," and Honey is… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on May 19, 2011 at 2:30pm — No Comments

Hate To Exercise

Why don't you exercise when you know perfectly well you should?  Why do you keep promising yourself you'll join the gym – but never get there?

You're huffing and puffing as you climb the stairs at work, irritated with yourself because you know you should be in better shape than this. It's getting harder to get your energy up in the morning, and you feel awfully rundown at night. You're well aware that exercising regularly would change all that, but you just can't seem to pull it… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on May 13, 2011 at 10:53pm — No Comments

Guy Buying Girlfriend Clothes

Why do some guys think they have the right to tell you what to wear or how to wear it? What is it about guys buying clothes for you that feels great but weird at the same time?

I'm at the mall, and I can't help but notice a very dashing young man selecting clothes for his girlfriend to try on. "Mmm, that's not really my type," she says, of one of the outfits, "Oh, you'd look great in it. Try it on – for me," he says, handing it to her. "OK," she says, giving in. And when she comes out… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on May 6, 2011 at 2:27pm — No Comments

Let Go Or Get Dragged

You cope pretty darn well with the crises and emergencies of life. Somehow you get through them, over them, and get on with life.

But then there are things that aren’t crises, yet somehow manage to irritate, annoy or aggravate you every time you bump into them. Things you don’t get over because they’re in your face time and time again.

You know, like that ex with whom you had the misfortune to birth a perfectly wonderful daughter who you have to “share” with him since the… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on May 2, 2011 at 1:22pm — No Comments

Boyfriend and Friends Don't Mix

Why is it that your boyfriend and your friends just don’t mix? Why do you get the distinct impression you have to give up your friends to please your boyfriend?

I'm at the car dealership, waiting for my car to be serviced, and a woman nearby is finishing up a conversation on her cell. The guy sitting with her is shaking his head. She turns to him, "What?" "Why did you invite them to dinner?" the guy asks, "You know I don't like them." "I thought you did like them," the woman says,… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on April 22, 2011 at 2:04pm — No Comments

Watching Your Words With Ex

Why is it anything you tell your child ends up coming out of your ex's mouth all wrong? How does your ex manage to twist your words no matter how carefully you say things?

Your child comes back from his usual "Dad" weekend, all moody and out of sorts. You ask "What's wrong?" He mumbles the usual "Nothing'" but eventually comes out with "Dad says you don't have time for me." "And why does he say that?" you ask, shocked. "Cause you said you wouldn't be calling over the weekend" he… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on April 15, 2011 at 12:05am — No Comments

Hitched Podcast

Episode 587: Loneliness Within Marriage

Even if you're in isolation with your spouse doesn't mean that you still can't be lonely. Dr. Karen Sherman joins to discuss how this is possible, what this means and how to address feeling lonely in marriage.

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