I do my best to regularly contribute bits and pieces of marriage advice with my Divorce Busting social media communities. It's always interesting for me to read people's examples of how they adopt the Divorce Busting approach- you guys really are a creative bunch! Recently, however, there was a bit of confusion with… Continue
Human beings are creatures of habit. Most of the time, we're on automatic pilot. We sleep on the same side of the bed every night. We sit in the same chair at our dining room table. We take the same route to work each day.
Being on automatic pilot is not necessarily a bad… Continue
The Walk away wife is a wife who plans the escape from her marriage far in advance from her actually filing for divorce. Michele Weiner-Davis explains the process a walk away wife goes through including her not being happy, the increase and then decrease in her complaining, her plan for escaping, and finally the divorce. Weiner-Davis teaches husbands how to prevent their wives from leaving, while urging women to reconsider what they're leaving behind.
Your marriage is in trouble. You don't know what to do . You want unbiased professional advice, "Can or should this marriage be saved?" So, you ask around and get the name of a therapist, someone who can offer impartial feedback about the viability of your relationship. Is
there enough worth salvaging, or is there too much dysfunction, too much
water under the bridge? Should you reinvest or cut your losses and
throw in the…
Your marriage is on the rocks. Your husband is emotionally unavailable and you strongly suspect he is having an affair. Your wife never wants to have sex. You are so miserable about your home life, you can't even concentrate at work. You're so desperate; divorce starts looking like a reasonable option. But you're just not sure what to do. So, you turn to your friends and family for a shoulder to lean on. You tell them about the problems in your… Continue
It amazes me that most people decide to end their marriages without seeking professional help. The decision of whether to divorce or not is probably the most important decision anyone will ever make. Yet, the fact remains that only a minority of people in the throes of marital problems consult marriage therapists.
Truth be told, seeking professional advice for your marital problems is no guarantee things will improve. In fact,… Continue
Although future posts will include a step-by-step guide for healing from infidelity, I want to jump start you on the process in case you just discovered the betrayal and you're eager to improve things between you and your spouse. Healing from infidelity involves teamwork; both partners must be fully committed to the hard work of getting their marriages back on track. The unfaithful partner must be willing to end the affair and do whatever it takes to win back the trust of his or her spouse.…
Want to be able to stop a fight in its tracks? Take a timeout. In the heat of an argument it's difficult to keep your relationship goals in sight. By taking an intentional break, the time spent reflecting can help to calm your nerves. In this video, I lay out simple strategies to help couples establish a system to lessen the negative effects of their arguments.
Low sexual desire in men is America's best kept secret. Millions
of men don't want sex with their wives. The problem is, men simply
don't want to discuss this matter with their wives, health care
professionals or anyone else for that matter. This leaves women feeling
alone and lonely. This video explains this sexual problem in marriage
and offers sex-starved wives several tips for bridging the desire…Continue
It's been estimated that one-third of couples face issues of low desire, the impact of which is felt beyond the bedroom: Unsatisfying sexual relationships are the all-too-frequent causes of infidelity and divorce. In this video, I provide some tips to overcome these sex-starved marriage… Continue
As a long-time observer of relationships, I can tell you that, like children, marriages go through different developmental stages and predictable crises. But because people are unfamiliar with the normal hills and valleys of marriage,…
A couple's problems unfold in the same way, at the same time, in the same location much of the time. Arguments become highly patterned and once these patterns are discernible, any minor change might yield different results. To help you identify what to change, pay attention to the pattern the problem takes by asking yourself the following four, "What, Where, When and Who" questions. As you respond to these questions, you will see that problems can be resolved by altering the way the problem is… Continue
It's sometimes difficult to reconcile, but our spouse is on our side and isn't trying to be vindictive in their actions. Dr. Noelle Nelson explains how to give them the benefit of the doubt and how that will improve your marriage.