In the movie The Marriage Contract, a couple receiving premarital counseling is told that they should prepare for marriage as if they were starting a new business. The goals, roles, rules, and expectations should to be clearly understood before the two parties sign on the dotted line. This is not to discount the importance of love, affection, or romance; those things matter, but in reality, two people coming together in a marriage are actually starting a joint business…Continue
Added by SAM on November 30, 2013 at 5:39pm — No Comments
We have a tendency to focus on the negatives, what doesn’t work, weaknesses and deficiencies, and how much our partner “sucks”. This is the kiss of death in life and relationships. This is a sure way of staying stuck in the status quo for what we focus on…Continue
Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on November 15, 2013 at 7:30am — No Comments
Are you generous in your relationship? Do you freely give from your heart with no strings attached, tit-for-tat, score keeping, need for acknowledgement, manipulation, or any other funny business?…Continue
Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on November 8, 2013 at 4:00pm — No Comments
A new study tracking the marital status of more than 460,000 U.S. service members between 1999 and 2008 found that the likelihood of divorce increased with each passing month that a spouse was away at war. The research was done by the RAND Corp. and published in Journal of Population Economics. Sebastian Negrusa, an economist who co-authored the study…Continue
Added by hitched on October 10, 2013 at 1:30pm — No Comments
Despite the money, time and emotional effort you’ve invested in marriage counseling, it doesn’t seem to work. It feels like the last hope of saving your marriage is being shattered and you are stuck in a dead end street.
If marriage counseling doesn’t…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on January 30, 2013 at 10:30pm — No Comments
At some point, almost every woman in a long-term relationship finds herself looking for the adoring man who used to be her best friend. The sharing and caring man who really SAW the amazing woman he has right in front of him and treated her like a princess.
Do you remember this man? Do you wonder where did he go? And who is this cold, distant, uninterested and uncaring creature that took his place?
You may think I am…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on January 3, 2013 at 10:45pm — No Comments
“I can’t believe this is happening to me”, my friend Rachel thought while sitting on the sofa with her husband John. Her heart was pounding and her face was turning pale as she heard him saying “I want a divorce.”
She was unable to speak. Her head was spinning and was too overwhelmed to cry. She just sat there listening to him telling her – “I just can’t go on like this anymore. Our marriage is over.”
He had already gone to work when she was able to speak…Continue
Not for a split second did you ever imagine that some day you will wake up next to a husband that hates you. YOUR husband? Who used to be so in love with you? That showered you with love and admiration? That used to be your best friend?
Cut to a few years later, and it’s like you…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on September 2, 2012 at 1:30am — No Comments
Looking back, I know I made virtually all the possible mistakes a betrayed wife can do after finding out about her husband’s emotional and physical 6 month affair. The first mistake was NOT looking for How to Survive an Affair bookimmediately.
I found out about it when he accidentally left his mail open. I think that subconsciously he wanted me to find out or he would have been much more careful with his private mail. It’s still…Continue
If you really want to save your marriage and your relationship, you know you have to end an affair. It’s not an easy thing to do; most people describe it quitting drugs – The “high” you get from the new found romance in your life I even addictive.
Even after you finally decide to end the affair, it doesn’t guarantee that you will save your relationship. You have to do it the right way and follow the right steps to save your marriage.
Added by Lisa Penn on July 19, 2012 at 11:08pm — No Comments
You want to get over his affair somehow, rebuild the trust and save your marriage, but constant suspicion is eating you away. All your energy is…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on July 15, 2012 at 9:30am — No Comments
You must forgive my morbid analogy, but marital problems are like cancer. The earlier you detect it and treat it, the more chances you have to beat it and survive.
Marriage problems are the same. If you address your problems early on and solve them on time, you dramatically increase the survival chances of your relationship. If you put it off and wait for the problems disappear on their own, don’t be surprised to be heading…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on June 4, 2012 at 11:07pm — No Comments
Do we really know what traditional marriage is all about? Here is a link that may shed some light on the subject.
Added by SAM on May 10, 2012 at 6:41am — No Comments
Your husband wakes up grumpy, stumbles to the bathroom, glances at your reflection next to his in the mirror, and says “What’s wrong with your hair?” You glare: “I slept on it funny. Good morning to you too.”
Strike one against husband: “Why do you have to be so unpleasant first thing?”
You’re marshalling the kids’ breakfasts, making their lunches, packing backpacks. Your spouse enters, clean-shaven, ready to go. He holds out his car-coffee-cup: “We’re out of coffee.” “So, make…Continue
Added by Noelle Nelson on April 27, 2012 at 10:11am — No Comments
Renowned marriage expert, Dr. Terri Orbuch, appears on the Fox morning show in Detroit to offer tips for couples on juggling the often-argued subject of money and marriage. Check it out.Continue
Added by hitched on April 25, 2012 at 2:35pm — No Comments
“I adore my husband, but I don’t want to have sex with him. We used to have sex all the time. I was passionately attracted to him, but now the thought being intimate repels me. It is very stressful to be with him especially alone and at night because he always makes advances on me. I hate having to hurt him every time he wants me.
I think it started when I was pregnant with our first child. I gradually lost interest in sex, but I hoped it will come back to me after having…
Added by Lisa Penn on April 24, 2012 at 11:25pm — No Comments
New data from the Pew Research Center might fall under the category of "not surprising," but it's still good to have the hard numbers. The study showed that in…Continue
Added by hitched on February 22, 2012 at 12:00pm — No Comments
The problem with this pondering that you might be doing is that you are probably focusing on the wrong things and that is why you either can’t make…Continue
Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on February 10, 2012 at 3:30pm — No Comments
In this day and age, especially in this culture, where success and happiness tend to be measured in terms of material accumulation, it makes sense that gifting follows the same pattern.
The holidays have become so commercialized that their true meaning is completely lost on most. Children are…Continue
Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on December 21, 2011 at 5:00pm — No Comments
Marriage therapists estimate as many as 20 percent of couples are in a low-sex or sexless marriage in the USA. To my surprise, often enough it's the men, heterosexual men, who don't want sex with their spouse.
How many times do you hear about a woman complaining about her sexless marriage? Not So Much. For most women it's very hard to talk about their husband not wanting to be intimate with them anymore. Women tend to take this personally and think that there is something wrong…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on November 16, 2011 at 10:00am — No Comments