Marriage…what a simple yet complicated thing, right? What can seem extremely easy—loving someone—can also be extremely difficult, when you drill it down. When you love someone, you are no longer thinking about just yourself, or someone else, you're thinking about each other, as a…Continue
STATEMENTS YOU DON’T WANT TO HEAR FROM NEWLYWEDS
* I didn’t know he didn’t want to have children.
* I didn’t know she spent two years as an inmate in a correctional…Continue
That’s how I felt when I found out my husband had an affair.
Sure, at first I wasn’t. The first feelings were rage, resentment, disgust, shock, confusion, numbness and helplessness.
But bottom line, when I looked deep down – I was…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on May 21, 2014 at 10:25am — No Comments
“O.k. Yes. I had an affair with her”.
My husband couldn’t look in my eyes when he finally admitted his 6-month affair with his co-worker.
I went completely silent for about 10 long seconds.
I wouldn’t exaggerate if I said that about 50 questions went through my…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on April 27, 2014 at 10:46am — No Comments
New research out of The Ohio State University studied 107 married couples, using voodoo dolls to track how angry spouses felt toward each other for three weeks. Every night before bed and every morning the couples would have their blood glucose measured (i.e., blood sugar level). Those who poked the voodoo doll most to express their anger toward their spouse were those with the lowest glucose…Continue
Added by hitched on April 17, 2014 at 12:30pm — No Comments
It's a new year with new tax rules. DailyFinance has put together a good write-up showing when it makes sense for couples to file jointly, lowering the amount their income will get taxed; and when to file separately because being married and filing jointly will…Continue
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Marriage leads to a big happiness boost for 2 years and then the couples' happiness levels returns to its normal state prior to engagement after that. This and a slew interesting tidbits from a variety of studies has been compiled by Happify. For example, did you know that people in the most successful marriages spend at least 5 or more hours per week talking? Or that a happy marriage is worth an additional $105,000 a year in…Continue
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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on December 9, 2013 at 10:30am — No Comments
In the movie The Marriage Contract, a couple receiving premarital counseling is told that they should prepare for marriage as if they were starting a new business. The goals, roles, rules, and expectations should to be clearly understood before the two parties sign on the dotted line. This is not to discount the importance of love, affection, or romance; those things matter, but in reality, two people coming together in a marriage are actually starting a joint business…Continue
Added by SAM on November 30, 2013 at 5:39pm — No Comments
We have a tendency to focus on the negatives, what doesn’t work, weaknesses and deficiencies, and how much our partner “sucks”. This is the kiss of death in life and relationships. This is a sure way of staying stuck in the status quo for what we focus on…Continue
Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on November 15, 2013 at 7:30am — No Comments
Are you generous in your relationship? Do you freely give from your heart with no strings attached, tit-for-tat, score keeping, need for acknowledgement, manipulation, or any other funny business?…Continue
Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on November 8, 2013 at 4:00pm — No Comments
A new study tracking the marital status of more than 460,000 U.S. service members between 1999 and 2008 found that the likelihood of divorce increased with each passing month that a spouse was away at war. The research was done by the RAND Corp. and published in Journal of Population Economics. Sebastian Negrusa, an economist who co-authored the study…Continue
Added by hitched on October 10, 2013 at 1:30pm — No Comments
Despite the money, time and emotional effort you’ve invested in marriage counseling, it doesn’t seem to work. It feels like the last hope of saving your marriage is being shattered and you are stuck in a dead end street.
If marriage counseling doesn’t…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on January 30, 2013 at 10:30pm — No Comments
At some point, almost every woman in a long-term relationship finds herself looking for the adoring man who used to be her best friend. The sharing and caring man who really SAW the amazing woman he has right in front of him and treated her like a princess.
Do you remember this man? Do you wonder where did he go? And who is this cold, distant, uninterested and uncaring creature that took his place?
You may think I am…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on January 3, 2013 at 10:45pm — No Comments
“I can’t believe this is happening to me”, my friend Rachel thought while sitting on the sofa with her husband John. Her heart was pounding and her face was turning pale as she heard him saying “I want a divorce.”
She was unable to speak. Her head was spinning and was too overwhelmed to cry. She just sat there listening to him telling her – “I just can’t go on like this anymore. Our marriage is over.”
He had already gone to work when she was able to speak…Continue
Not for a split second did you ever imagine that some day you will wake up next to a husband that hates you. YOUR husband? Who used to be so in love with you? That showered you with love and admiration? That used to be your best friend?
Cut to a few years later, and it’s like you…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on September 2, 2012 at 1:30am — No Comments
Looking back, I know I made virtually all the possible mistakes a betrayed wife can do after finding out about her husband’s emotional and physical 6 month affair. The first mistake was NOT looking for How to Survive an Affair bookimmediately.
I found out about it when he accidentally left his mail open. I think that subconsciously he wanted me to find out or he would have been much more careful with his private mail. It’s still…Continue
If you really want to save your marriage and your relationship, you know you have to end an affair. It’s not an easy thing to do; most people describe it quitting drugs – The “high” you get from the new found romance in your life I even addictive.
Even after you finally decide to end the affair, it doesn’t guarantee that you will save your relationship. You have to do it the right way and follow the right steps to save your marriage.
Added by Lisa Penn on July 19, 2012 at 11:08pm — No Comments
You want to get over his affair somehow, rebuild the trust and save your marriage, but constant suspicion is eating you away. All your energy is…Continue
Added by Lisa Penn on July 15, 2012 at 9:30am — No Comments