Every time I look at a guy while he’s talking his “game” to me. I wonder, “Does he get it?” And if I ask that question all of a sudden, would he even understand what I’m talking about.
I know that as he’s talking he’s probably (one) trying to picture me naked, (two) wondering if I’m as freaky as the books that I write and/or (three) wondering how fast he can get that freak in the nearest bed.
While I’m looking at him talk, I’m wondering (one) does he have good teeth (two)… Continue
Added by Sylvia Hubbard on July 10, 2009 at 1:30pm —
I popped in on my colleague, Susan Naylen Sorrell, who owns a wonderful, mom-friendly sex shop in Calgary called, A Little More Interesting
With a mischievous glint in her eye she said, “Trina, you have to watch this!” And sent me home to review, the Pirates 2 Stagnetti’s Revenge; a four disk porn epilogue that is a spoof on The Pirates of the Caribbean series.*
Upon arriving home, my thirteen month old… Continue
Added by Trina Read on July 5, 2009 at 8:26am —
I think that’s always been my fear and the only reason why I never get serious any more.
I mean I pride myself on memorizing books by the like of Gregory Godek http://www.1001waystoberomantic.com and Laura Corn http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/search-handle-form/002-5224313-4224027 but I know when I do all this for my man will he return the romantic suggestion.
Now I know and understand once you do one romantic gesture you do it to express your appreciation for this… Continue
Added by Sylvia Hubbard on June 30, 2009 at 1:00pm —
While speaking at the Taboo Sex Show, a colleague mentioned a discussion with her morning waiter from our hotel restaurant. When he found out what she was selling at the show, he confessed no woman he has met was “perfect” enough for him.
As such he decided the best compromise was to buy a perfectly proportioned blow up doll. Problem was it was going to cost him $10,000 USD plus. He had been saving from his two waitering jobs since and had almost come up with the entire amount. He… Continue
Added by Trina Read on June 26, 2009 at 7:16am —
I guess I was lucky because I base every kiss that I get from a guy from the first kiss I ever got.
His name was Leroy and I thought he was just so cute, but he never paid any attention to me. I was twelve and he used to come over my best friend’s next-door neighbors house every once in a while during the summer. For two summers I waited for him to pay attention to me.
I’m a lioness. I do the hunting without them knowing their being hunted. I made sure he saw my new… Continue
Added by Sylvia Hubbard on June 22, 2009 at 1:00pm —
In Algebra, we get the formula of:
A + B = C
Last night, I was speaking with a friend. Maybe I was tired; maybe I was on a “weed high” (although I don’t smoke or inhale, LOL), where my brain was just thinking deeply on different subjects.
So let me see if I can get u to understand where I’m coming from.
If C equals “Relationship Maturity” what is A and B?
And if you figured out what A and B was, could you apply this formula to not only the… Continue
Added by Sylvia Hubbard on June 15, 2009 at 1:36pm —
Instead of writing about the first time i had puppy love, i'm going to write about the first time i knew i was unconditionally in love at first sight. I never really knew how powerful an emotional love was until I had so much hate in me I couldn't see straight.
a better title for this would be:
An Ode to My Love Prophet
(the person who taught me love)
The first person I fell in love with was my son. Through my pregnancy of him, I hated men. My spirit had… Continue
Added by Sylvia Hubbard on June 15, 2009 at 1:28pm —
Is your vagina fully aroused before you start having intercourse?
Women (and men) assume that because she’s had an orgasm that her orgasmic platform is properly aroused. It’s usually not the case. It takes the average woman between 10 to 15 minutes for her orgasmic platform to fully engorge with blood (a man's penis takes approximately 30 seconds to one minute). The average couple sex lasts for 10 to 12 minutes, meaning sex is usually over just as she's getting properly… Continue
Added by Trina Read on June 7, 2009 at 1:55pm —
My marriage is in big big big big problem!!! I feel so dettached from my husband and our marriage. I feels like i am wasting my time and energy in this marriage that not going to change. I haven't cheated on my husband and dont want to because that not what I want. I want to be loved byt my husband, appreciated by him, feel by him, and cared and adored by my husband. But I dont feel that. I t more out of life. I want to be happy and in a secured relationship. GOD is my only relationship I feel… Continue
Added by jillian simpson on May 16, 2009 at 7:42pm —
Did you know...
Doing Kegels for two minutes a day will raise both his and her arousal, desire and make for bigger, better orgasms.
Just like any muscle in your body, if you don't 'exercise' your vaginal canal or penis, those muscles will begin to atrophy. Doing Kegels daily brings blood flow to those areas and increases awareness, which makes it easier to become aroused. And because you're exercising those muscles, your orgasms will become… Continue
Added by Trina Read on May 10, 2009 at 11:33am —
I was sad to see the article on Hitched about how kids negatively effect marriage. A study released last week showed that for 90% of couples their level of marital satisfaction dropped once they had children. John Gottman, from the University of Washington, reported that the divorce rate spikes for couples just after the birth of their first child.
So what's the deal? Isn't having children one of the reasons why we got married? But here the research is showing us that having children… Continue
Added by Brett Williams on April 24, 2009 at 1:27pm —
Local Couples Group Supports Marriages
The initial thought to write a relationship book came to our couples during our annual couples retreat. Imagine four couples settling down to a quiet dinner at our favorite bed and breakfast when a lively discussion develops from recent conversations we have recently had with friends and co-workers asking how they could receive the same monthly marital support that our group has benefitted from the past 14 years. A mere five years later, our… Continue
Added by Greg R. Thiel on April 12, 2009 at 5:30pm —
Hey Dr. Trina!
Since my ex (5-6 years ago) I have had trouble letting go and having orgasms. Some background is that I used to have no trouble having orgasms on top riding a man, but then he said it has always been uncomfortable for him. This was two years into our relationship and I took it very personally. I have never been able to orgasm with oral sex but only started enjoying oral sex with my last boyfriend.
The long and short is that I can't orgasm with a man unless I use a… Continue
Added by Trina Read on April 12, 2009 at 9:51am —
My fiance and I have been engaged for a year now, and all we've done since moving in together is fight and I mean nasty fights, he always has to be right, he belittles me all the time, we're in the middle of planning our wedding and we're already having major problems! Isn't this suppose to still be the honey moon stage??? And sometimes I get to the point were I feel it's not even worth hurting as much as I do.
Added by Julie on March 17, 2009 at 5:14pm —
Eight Hours to a Lifetime of Satisfaction: A Workshop for Couples Living With MSEight Hours to a Lifetime of Satisfaction: A Workshop for Couples Living With MS
Fort Collins, Colorado, April 17 & 18, 2009
- Get that spark back in your relationship by learning tools that will help better manage the unique issues faced when a partner has MS. This course is based on the nationally recognized marriage curriculum, Prevention and Relationship Enhancement… Continue
Added by Greg R. Thiel on March 16, 2009 at 12:24pm —
Here's a very interesting reader question:
“My new boyfriend doesn’t like to give oral sex. I don’t think I’ll be very satisfied without it, but I don’t want to pressure him to do something he doesn’t want to do! How do I handle this?”
I would bet that he either doesn’t feel very confident in his oral sex ability or he had a bad experience that turned him off of giving oral sex.
You need to have a conversation, outside the bedroom, to find if it is… Continue
Added by Trina Read on March 15, 2009 at 10:29am —
New Drinks Matcher Widget Offers Thousands of Pairings Online
Which wine tastes best with pork chops in a maple glaze? Does rosemary-marinated grilled halibut invite red or white wine? Are there also great food pairings for beer, spirits, cocktails, coffee and tea?
To answer these questions and thousands more, the web site NatalieMacLean.com now offers a new Drinks Matcher widget, a portable version of the site’s existing food-and-wine pairing tool. You can download… Continue
Added by Natalie MacLean on March 13, 2009 at 9:50am —
How hysteria was once treated…
Vibrators got their start during the industrial revolution as medical devices and were used to treat hysteria in women. Hysteria was a catchall diagnosis that included a wide array of women’s medical complaints, from simple irritability to debilitating physical weakness. Many medical experts believed these symptoms were caused by a prolonged lack of sexual gratification. Ironic given that acceptable sexual relationship existed only within marriage and… Continue
Added by Trina Read on March 8, 2009 at 10:24am —
has me as their sex expert. This month's question is: “My partner wants me to talk dirty but I find it really embarrassing. I’d like to try it for him, but where do I start?”
The rules around dirty talk: Start small and go slow.
Talking about sex is something most people don’t have any practice at. So it’s the lack of practice that is making you nervous.
Before the sexual encounter… Continue
Added by Trina Read on March 1, 2009 at 8:56am —
Question: What kind of effect are online flirtations having on couple relationships? What advice do you offer to couples who want to have fun in social spaces but don’t want to torpedo their own relationships?
My best advice is: if you can’t tell your partner what you’re up to then don’t do it.
If you can chat easily about the flirtation then it should be okay.
I would suggest never do anything outside of your relationship in secrecy. It’s… Continue
Added by Trina Read on February 22, 2009 at 10:05am —