I was sad to see the article on Hitched about how kids negatively effect marriage. A study released last week showed that for 90% of couples their level of marital satisfaction dropped once they had children. John Gottman, from the University of Washington, reported that the divorce rate spikes for couples just after the birth of their first child.
So what's the deal? Isn't having children one of the reasons why we got married? But here the research is showing us that having children… Continue
Local Couples Group Supports Marriages
The initial thought to write a relationship book came to our couples during our annual couples retreat. Imagine four couples settling down to a quiet dinner at our favorite bed and breakfast when a lively discussion develops from recent conversations we have recently had with friends and co-workers asking how they could receive the same monthly marital support that our group has benefitted from the past 14 years. A mere five years later, our… Continue
Hey Dr. Trina!
Since my ex (5-6 years ago) I have had trouble letting go and having orgasms. Some background is that I used to have no trouble having orgasms on top riding a man, but then he said it has always been uncomfortable for him. This was two years into our relationship and I took it very personally. I have never been able to orgasm with oral sex but only started enjoying oral sex with my last boyfriend.
The long and short is that I can't orgasm with a man unless I use a… Continue
My fiance and I have been engaged for a year now, and all we've done since moving in together is fight and I mean nasty fights, he always has to be right, he belittles me all the time, we're in the middle of planning our wedding and we're already having major problems! Isn't this suppose to still be the honey moon stage??? And sometimes I get to the point were I feel it's not even worth hurting as much as I do.
Eight Hours to a Lifetime of Satisfaction: A Workshop for Couples Living With MSEight Hours to a Lifetime of Satisfaction: A Workshop for Couples Living With MS
Fort Collins, Colorado, April 17 & 18, 2009 - Get that spark back in your relationship by learning tools that will help better manage the unique issues faced when a partner has MS. This course is based on the nationally recognized marriage curriculum, Prevention and Relationship Enhancement… Continue
Added by Greg R. Thiel on March 16, 2009 at 12:24pm —
Here's a very interesting reader question:
“My new boyfriend doesn’t like to give oral sex. I don’t think I’ll be very satisfied without it, but I don’t want to pressure him to do something he doesn’t want to do! How do I handle this?”
My Response: I would bet that he either doesn’t feel very confident in his oral sex ability or he had a bad experience that turned him off of giving oral sex.
You need to have a conversation, outside the bedroom, to find if it is… Continue
Added by Trina Read on March 15, 2009 at 10:29am —
New Drinks Matcher Widget Offers Thousands of Pairings Online
Which wine tastes best with pork chops in a maple glaze? Does rosemary-marinated grilled halibut invite red or white wine? Are there also great food pairings for beer, spirits, cocktails, coffee and tea?
To answer these questions and thousands more, the web site NatalieMacLean.com now offers a new Drinks Matcher widget, a portable version of the site’s existing food-and-wine pairing tool. You can download… Continue
Vibrators got their start during the industrial revolution as medical devices and were used to treat hysteria in women. Hysteria was a catchall diagnosis that included a wide array of women’s medical complaints, from simple irritability to debilitating physical weakness. Many medical experts believed these symptoms were caused by a prolonged lack of sexual gratification. Ironic given that acceptable sexual relationship existed only within marriage and… Continue
Question: What kind of effect are online flirtations having on couple relationships? What advice do you offer to couples who want to have fun in social spaces but don’t want to torpedo their own relationships?
Dr. Trina: My best advice is: if you can’t tell your partner what you’re up to then don’t do it. If you can chat easily about the flirtation then it should be okay.
I would suggest never do anything outside of your relationship in secrecy. It’s… Continue
Added by Trina Read on February 22, 2009 at 10:05am —
Attention all parents! Parents Tool Talk returns LIVE this month with a special program centered on love, dating, and marriage. This month’s topic is “Make A Play Date With Your Spouse.”
Teleseminar Air Date and Time: Friday, February 13, 2009, 12 pm ET (11 am CT), (10 am MT), (9 am PT)
Call-in Number: (347) 205-9654 to listen and participate in our exciting discussion
Web site: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/parentstooltalk - go… Continue
Added by Greg R. Thiel on February 14, 2009 at 10:38am —
A recent Italian survey conducted by the Catholic University in Campobasso, found that 6.7 grams of dark chocolate per day (about a half a bar per week) was the ideal amount for a protective effect against inflammation and subsequent cardiovascular disease. As if I needed another reason to eat chocolate.
With chocolaty cosmic-ness, this study came out only a few days after the death of one of the chocolate world's great leaders, Robert Steinberg. Steinberg (61) was co-founder of… Continue
Chris: What’s the difference between single woman sex and married woman sex?
My Answer: When you think about how the average person learns to have sex, it was a short time period encompassing a small amount of knowledge. That limited learning is what we take and use for the rest of our lives. This single-sex formula works great when we are… Continue
Added by Trina Read on February 8, 2009 at 6:33am —
Here's my answer:
I wrote this book because of my own sexual difficulties after only a few years of marriage. I knew the minute I met my husband that he was “the one” and everything about our relationship, including the sex, was amazing. Yet three years after getting married our sex life became almost… Continue
Added by Trina Read on February 1, 2009 at 7:49am —
I'm the guest Sex Expert for the Canadian Glow magazine. From January to March I will answer four reader questions. Here's the first.
Glow Question: “I dreamt that I cheated on my boyfriend with an ex and I feel awful! What does this mean?”
It’s not just men having wet dreams—women have sex dreams too. Some dreams get so hot and heavy women can achieve orgasm…hopefully she remembers when she wakes up. Otherwise she’ll wake up feeling… Continue
New reseearch indicates that overly affectionate couples early in their marriage are more likely to have troubles later in their marriage. But what is too much affection? What about the honeymoon? Dr. Karen Sherman explains.