November 2009 Blog Posts (20)

Week #1--How do we make time to have sex?

You’d think being married for eight years and me being a sex expert would make the whole reconnection after baby thing easier. Nope. The two month absence in sex wedged a tiny “how do I initiate” awkwardness between us.

So there I was figuring out how I was going to get the sex ball rolling in a fun and light hearted way. Admittedly I had a few romantic notions of a sweet and tender, uninterrupted reunion—where teeth were brushed, legs shaved and I was wearing something other than… Continue

Added by Trina Read on November 29, 2009 at 9:55am — 1 Comment

Making Him Wrong Makes Love Depart

Him: Happy. “Hi, Honey – I’m home!”

You: Fuming. “You’re late. Now dinner is burnt, I’ve got a headache and it’s all your fault.”

And what else is his fault? Let me guess – the cold you caught because he had a cold, your getting in to work late that day because he was talking about something (who remembers what) which distracted you from getting ready . . . and on and on.

Wow. At this rate, you may feel forever righteous, not resonsible for anything that… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on November 28, 2009 at 6:32pm — No Comments

The Chemistry of Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving and Chemistry: What's the connection? from ACS Pressroom on…

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Added by hitched on November 25, 2009 at 2:03pm — No Comments

How to Roast a Turkey on Your Car Engine

It's pretty standard that the hosting house makes the turkey since it takes so long, but USA Today has offered some instructions on how traveling guests can bring their own roasted turkey. Excerpted from Manifold Destiny (Simon and Schuster Paperbacks, $14), you can also learn how to make "Prius Pork," "Impressive… Continue

Added by hitched on November 25, 2009 at 10:04am — No Comments

How Much to Get to Grandma's House?

MSNBC is running a great online presentation showing the pricing change through the last 50 years of how much it costs to get to and celebrate Thanksgiving with your family. This includes travel expenses, a Thanksgiving dinner for 10 people, and hotel stay. For example, a turkey dinner in 1959 cost $8.36 (in 2009 dollars). By 1979, that turkey dinner jumped to $21.91. This year--as you're about to find… Continue

Added by hitched on November 23, 2009 at 10:30pm — No Comments

Six Month Sex Challenge

Sex after baby. What a crazy time in a couple’s sex life.

It’s been six weeks since I had my newest son, Evan, and it’s time to resume sexual relations. With my first son, Andrew (who’s now 26 months), trying to get sex back on track was, at times, a complete gong show. And that was with me making a concerted effort to have sex at least once a week.

With that in mind this time around, I’ve decided to make sex after this baby a project. For the next six… Continue

Added by Trina Read on November 23, 2009 at 9:30am — 2 Comments

Can You Keep Those Little Things From Tearing You Apart?

You: “The bathroom light. He never turns it off when he’s done. Drives me crazy!”

Your girlfriend: “Bathroom light? Try wet teabags on the kitchen counter. Yuck!”

OK, so he isn’t Mr. Clean or Mr. Oops-I-gotta-turn-off-the-Light. Yes, it’s annoying. Yes, you’ve told him a zillion times, and yes you wish he’d get it already.

So let’s see – when he (or you) leaves this mortal plane, what are you going to say: “He never turned off the bathroom light” or “Oh,… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on November 19, 2009 at 9:12pm — No Comments

Domestic Violence Insights

October was Domestic Violence Awareness month. Though it is now November, I believe this still needs to be posted. I'm a man, a professional therapist, and yes I promote this crucial awareness. Domestic violence can be passive or aggressive in nature, as most would attest to the media coverage of the later. This sad and pathetic situation affects young and old alike. It traumatizes children, teens and the victim's family and friends. Often men are the perpetrators, though women also carry this… Continue

Added by Greg Dudzinski, MS, LPC on November 19, 2009 at 4:54am — No Comments

Relationship Coaching Corner

Dear Coach Greg: My partner and I have lived together for almost 2 years. We both work full time and contribute toward household expenses proportionate with our respective salaries. Life was easy the first year since co-habitation was new and exciting for both of us. I assumed that we would both contribute equally to household chores, but lately I feel more like a maid than an equal partner. Can you help us before we end an otherwise wonderful relationship?

NOT The… Continue

Added by Greg R. Thiel on November 18, 2009 at 2:11pm — No Comments

Goverment Says Mammograms Not Necessary Until Age 50

Prior to their report, the recommended age had been 40. In the video from the AP, they still recommend that women discuss this decision with their personal physician. Let's hope that this doesn't push insurance companies to deny claims by women who are under the age of 50. What are your thoughts on this?…

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Added by hitched on November 17, 2009 at 8:23pm — 1 Comment

How a SMILE Lights Up Your Love Life!

You: Straight, serious face. “That’s nice, dear.”

Him: “Yeah, well OK. Whatever."

Smile! Let your Sweetheart know just how sweet he is in your heart with a big ole SMILE!! You want enthusiasm from him, a little passion maybe, then smile.

Your guy lives for that smile. He wants to know he pleases you, that he is still your Prince, your Knight in Shining Armor. Your smile tells him that bigtime.

Be generous with your smiles. Smile whenever you’re… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on November 14, 2009 at 2:43pm — No Comments

Divorce Risk Higher When Wife Gets Sick

According to findings in a new study, women who were told they had a serious illness were seven times as likely to become separated or divorced as men with similar health problems. The study collected data on 515 patients who received diagnoses of brain tumors or multiple sclerosis from 2001 through 2006 and found that when the man became ill, only 3 percent experienced the end of a marriage. Among women, about 21 percent ended up separated or divorced. Among couples who split up,… Continue

Added by hitched on November 12, 2009 at 6:09pm — No Comments

High BPA Levels Linked to Male Sexual Problems

Bisphenol A or BPA, the controversial chemical found in thousands of everyday plastic products appears to cause erectile dysfunction and other sexual problems in men, according to a study funded by the federal government and published in the journal Human Reproduction. Researchers focused on 634 male workers at four factories in China who were exposed to elevated levels of BPA. They followed the men over five years and compared their sexual health with that of male workers in other… Continue

Added by hitched on November 11, 2009 at 5:00pm — No Comments

Men's Erogenous Zones

It’s important when contemplating a man’s erogenous zones, to think outside the “penis box”.

Yes, of course, men want to experience maximum penis-love, however, when you branch out to other parts of his body it gives both of you the opportunity to experience a sense of erotica. Erotica being the holy grail of sizzling sex.

Erogenous zones you probably already know:

His Penis: The 1/3—2/3 rule.

The first third (or head/ glans) of a man’s penis has… Continue

Added by Trina Read on November 11, 2009 at 8:16am — No Comments

Dr. Scott Haltzman's Appearance on Rachael Ray

In case you missed it, Dr. Scott Haltzman appeared on the Rachael Ray show to discuss "Mad Men" marriages, which was defined as marriages where women take a homemaker roll while the husband goes off to work. The show included two couples who discussed how this type of arrangement worked for them. Dr. Haltzman answered several questions and provided solid reasoning and thought for why this works for a lot of couples. We'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Rachael Ray asked her… Continue

Added by hitched on November 6, 2009 at 3:35pm — No Comments

Would You Change Your Name After Marriage?

An article from Oprah.com (posted on CNN) asks the question of why women still change their name. It argues that it's a change of identity. Furthermore, it contends that name changes don't make families more connected. The article says that today, roughly 20 percent of American women don't change their name for marriage. What are your thoughts? Is changing your name an… Continue

Added by hitched on November 5, 2009 at 4:43pm — 2 Comments

How to Fight With Your Spouse Like Friends, Not Lose Like Enemies

You: “We can’t move! I just got a promotion and a raise!”

Him: “If we don’t move, I won’t have a job at all!”

Stalemate. Nasty. Feels like a serious lose-lose. And right now, neither of you are budging. Both of you feel righteous: “Why should I be the one to give in here?”

But a house divided against itself cannot stand. This marriage hasn’t a chance unless and until you are willing to sit down and focus on a solution, instead of focusing on who’s gonna… Continue

Added by Noelle Nelson on November 4, 2009 at 9:39pm — No Comments

Pentagon Says U.S. Youth Unfit to Serve

We've read the reports about the obesity problems in the youths of America, but is it now a national security issue? The Pentagon just released a report saying 35% of the 31 million Americans aged 17 to 24 are unqualified because of physical and medical issues. The majority don't qualify because they are too fat or sickly, the rest are too dumb or have used too many drugs to qualify. The report pulled data from the Centers for Disease Control, which has found that the percentage of… Continue

Added by hitched on November 4, 2009 at 3:27pm — No Comments

The Marriage Ref is Tom Papa

A few weeks ago, we ran an interview with Ellen Rakieten (click here) to discuss the new Jerry Seinfeld show called, "The Marriage Ref." At the time she couldn't disclose who would actually be the marriage ref, only to say that it's someone that Seinfeld has selected. Well, a report from the Hollywood… Continue

Added by hitched on November 3, 2009 at 3:06pm — No Comments

Daily Grind Good for Marriages

I know we've posted about the health benefits of coffee before, but we're not talking about that kind of grind. We're talking about doing chores, going to work, and so on. According to a new study out of Montclair State University, the more housework you do, the more often you're likely to have sex with your husband or wife. Moreover, more time spent in the paid work force was also linked to more sex. One of the authors of the study said that the daily grind doesn't cause the sex to… Continue

Added by hitched on November 2, 2009 at 9:47pm — No Comments