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THE SPACE BETWEEN US…

What makes us Us? What is the essence of our relationship? Is it the sum of You and Me? Of two separate entities committed to each other, hopefully, that positively, or indifferently, relate to each other?  The essence of our relationship is made up of the connection between ourselves and our partner. The energy in the…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 8:39am — No Comments

PERCEPTION, MOOD & CONNECTION

Our mood is impacted by many variables in our lives if we let it. Our hectic lifestyles, poor self care, habits, emotional problems, the weight of our history, etc. can all have a huge impact on how we feel and therefore how available we are in our relationship(s).

But how we feel can also be a choice. We can…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 8:38am — No Comments

TAKE RISKS, GET RESULTS!

Do you find that hard as you try you seem to be stuck in the same place? That it seems like you’ve tried it all, work hard at it, are pooped and yet nothing is different? Unfortunately, this is the story of most partners, the ones that give a hoot anyway. The rest have resigned themselves to living contentedly in ignorant bliss…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 8:37am — No Comments

HEALING GASHING WOUNDS

People are obsessed with the difficulties in their relationship, they just keep thinking about it and hurting over it. They put too much negative mental energy into it. I don’t really blame them as I know it is very difficult and painful to be in a relationship that just keeps hurting them, but one gets out what one puts in.…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 8:36am — No Comments

PINK IS FOR BONDING…

Our relationship has a purpose. There is a reason for our relationship  why we chose the partner we did. People, in more recent times, usually say they got married, or are involved in their relationship, because they love their partner, and/or have also other logical reasons why they decided to commit and stay with their…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 8:01am — No Comments

ARE YOU ALL IN YET?

Have you gotten over yourself, evicted your Ego, yet? Are you full steam ahead? Are you all in? Are you fully committed to really giving it your all, to throwing your whole Self in? Are you fully committed to kicking some serious butt, to creating an extraordinary life and awesomest relationship? Do these…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 8:01am — No Comments

PARTNER SELFISHNESS

A lot of times we experience our partner as selfish. They might seem self-indulgent, inconsiderate, self-absorbed, thoughtless, demanding, and unsupportive. They might be passive-aggressive and underminding. It appears that everything is about them and for them.

It is draining to be in relationship with a selfish…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 7:59am — No Comments

ARE YOU ABANDONED OR SMOTHERED IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

Couples get stuck in how they relate in their relationship and no matter how they try to get unstuck, to meet their needs and to create a satisfying relationship, they just get more and more buried in dissatisfaction.

The negative cycle of relating, their stuckedness, is created because partners bring childhood…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 7:58am — No Comments

DATING IN YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIP?

The longer we are with our partner and the more time goes on, there is a tendency for complacency, laziness, neglect, taking-for-grantedness, and boredom in the relationship.

These are common to relationships after the honeymoon period, the infatuation stage of relationships, is over. They are…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 7:55am — No Comments

HOW TO GET TO THE BEST FROM YOUR PARTNER

It never ceases to amaze me what couples can accomplish and how they are able to turn their relationship around when they set their mind to it! I have literally seen miracles happen… I have seen couples come back from real horrible places. It is a formidable phenomenon to witness. I have, unfortunately, also seen partners give up on…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 7:53am — No Comments

THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE…

As I’ve written before, one of the reasons some couples’ relationships deteriorate over time is because the partners get lured by life away from their partner…

Partners work hard at their jobs and become involved in their careers, children absorb much of their attention and a multitude of life…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 7:52am — No Comments

ENERGY, PASSION & SEX

Couples frequently come to my practice expressing that they have lost something or that something is missing in their relationship. They complain there is no passion. They share that they are good friends, but want something more in their relationship. A lot of these couples have a sexless relationship (having sexual intimacy less than…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 9, 2019 at 7:50am — No Comments

NEW HABITS, ROUTINES AND MOTIVATION

I LOVE this time of year to set myself up for an amazing new one. Everything I walked you through in the past few blogs, all captured here: How to Waltz into the New Year, I do myself. I’m so excited for the new…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on January 7, 2019 at 1:39pm — No Comments

The Ebook vs the Textbook

All post-secondary schools demand that students carry textbooks for learning. It is difficult to escape the long lines at bookstores and taking notes from each chapter. However as technology develops, so does the format for learning and these changes may be beneficial for the students. Ebooks are more popular than ever. However, you may wonder which ones are better for learners when it comes to choosing between ebooks and textbooks. When you…

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Added by Linda Morrison on December 28, 2018 at 5:41am — No Comments

LIBERATING NEW PERSPECTIVES…

Growing and developing as a couple is no easy feat. It requires intention, consciousness, commitment, dedication, and effort. Being in tune with signs that change is needed is a good way of promoting growth for the couple.

Signs that indicate…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on August 28, 2018 at 12:19pm — No Comments

ARE YOU CODEPENDENT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

One version of couples struggling that I come across are couples with partners that are codependent. These are the couples that are stuck in patterns that they can’t seem to break, they have a lot of fighting and drama or complete disconnect (conflict avoiding), they feel they are behind…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on August 28, 2018 at 12:18pm — No Comments

STOP REACTING, START RESPONDING!

Do you find that your interactions with your partner include some of the following?

  • Poor or no eye-contact
  • Giving of the back or talking to the back
  • Talking to the air
  • Not responding, acknowledging or…
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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on August 28, 2018 at 12:14pm — No Comments

PRAISE, ACKNOWLEDGEMENT & MORE!

One of the love languages is Words of Affirmation (book referenced above).Words of affirmation come in many forms including praise, acknowledgement, credit, recognition, validation, compliments, and appreciation. Each of these are a gift in and of themselves. When you use these, you show your…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on August 28, 2018 at 12:13pm — No Comments

HOW TO CREATE THE RELATIONSHIP YOU DESIRE

Usually we have good intentions and mean to invest in our relationship.Somehow this fizzles from the moment we have that thought or attitude to the next moment… We are very fickle in our thinking about the status and course of our relationship. One moment we are partners for life, the next we can’t wait to…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on August 28, 2018 at 12:10pm — No Comments

HAVE AWESOME OUTCOMES, EXERCISE YOUR POWER TO CHOOSE!

Our relationship and life are a reflection of the choices we make… I find that we make poor choices at almost every turn and then wonder how come our relationship and life are not as we’d prefer them to be… I find that we do not own our Self and our life, that we do not know who we are and what we are…

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Added by Emma K. Vigluicci, LMFT, CIT on August 28, 2018 at 10:30am — No Comments

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