I am Cory Honickman and I am a Marriage and Family Therapist and Marriage Planner from Hollywood California. I work with professionals, celebs, housewives and executives to have all that they desire in their marriage and relationships. Each one of my posts will consist of a real issue that I have been confronted with by one of my clients. Of course names will be changed for confidentiality reasons. I look forward to comments, questions and/or feedback that you may have for me! So lets get… Continue
Added by Cory Honickman on August 26, 2009 at 11:21pm —
You: Sobbing. “He cheated on me! I can’t believe he cheated on me!”
Your girlfriend: “Oh that’s horrible! You should leave him right away!”
Maybe. But maybe not. Through the big dark ugly cloud of infidelity, there may be a silver lining. . .
Affairs are often a cry for help, an acting out of the unhappiness or distress your man is feeling but hasn’t been able to talk about.
So before you pack your bags and storm out, see if you can sit down and talk… Continue
Added by Noelle Nelson on August 26, 2009 at 6:12pm —
For women. Yep, a new study says that women with elevated testosterone levels tend to behave more like men when taking financial risks. So what does that mean? Testosterone has been associated with competitiveness and dominance, reduction of fear, and with risky behaviors like gambling and alcohol use. So women with high levels of testosterone were nearly seven times more… Continue
Added by hitched on August 24, 2009 at 9:01pm —
Canadian researchers studied over 3,500 men age 35 to 70 and found that those who averaged at least one drink of beer or hard alcohol a day had a higher risk of having a number of cancers including, cancers of the esophagus, stomach, colon, lungs, pancreas, liver and prostate. This doesn't mean that all drinking is the same, the frequency and amount did… Continue
Added by hitched on August 21, 2009 at 4:50pm —
... while dating...while married…while just anything…
I know I’ve been quiet on the home front at LABW. Well there’s no excuse and you have my permission to tap me for that.
At first it was work, work…Next… Continue
Added by Sylvia Hubbard on August 21, 2009 at 11:55am —
I'm sure we could fill a thread on the message board with lost wedding ring stories. Here's a doozie. A New Zealand man, Aleki Taumoepeau, was married three months when his wedding ring flew off of his finger in the harbor of the country's capital city, Wellington. Taumoepeau was devistated and vowed to find the ring. He made several dives by without luck. His wife, recognizing that the… Continue
Added by hitched on August 20, 2009 at 10:00am —
Him: Beaming. Brushing dirt off pants. “Got the whole lawn mowed!”
You: Gritting your teeth. Forcing a smile. “That’s nice, dear. Thank you.”
Like you ever get praise for the hundreds of tasks you perform every week. But you smile, even though it hurts (it does!).
Good girl! Praise, acknowledging your guy’s value, appreciating him, is the cornerstone of a good relationship. Now all you have to do is lose the resentment acid-refluxing your stomach every time… Continue
Added by Noelle Nelson on August 18, 2009 at 6:48pm —
Have you wondered what sex will be like in the future? It could be without the the traditional condom. Researchers at the University of Utah have had a breakthrough with microbicides (intravaginal gels, rings, and films) that can prevent the transmission of viruses such as the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) and the effectiveness of semen. They've created a product that's applied as a gel but becomes semi-solid in response to pH changes caused by the introduction of semen. This… Continue
Added by hitched on August 18, 2009 at 9:17am —
Fantasies are an easy way to add incredible zest to any sexual encounter. Best of all they’re fun, easy and free.
Although I wholeheartedly encourage any couple to undertake and integrate fantasy as part of their love making, I wonder how realistic it is. It seems to me couples who struggle just to keep sex going on a semi-regular basis might feel overwhelmed to introduce such adventure.
As such, I want to take a poll. My question: Is fantasy something you would… Continue
Added by Trina Read on August 15, 2009 at 9:02am —
Him: Kissing your neck. “Um, you smell good.”
You: Not in the mood. Letting yourself relax under his touch anyway.
Oh, you smart, caring woman, you. Recognizing that his needs are important too, and simply letting yourself relax . . . which more often than not will put you in the mood.
Nobody likes rejection, and a guy too often rejected in the love-making department will stop looking to you for that love. . .
Smart woman, you!
Added by Noelle Nelson on August 12, 2009 at 9:51pm —
The Wall Street Journal
interviewed a bunch of couples who are dealing with job loss from one or both partners. They found a few different things that these couples had in common. One of them is that when one spouse is stuck at home all day and the other is still in the workforce, the jobless begins to get a little clingy. So much of our identity is… Continue
Added by hitched on August 12, 2009 at 11:26am —
It's no surprise that having a kid is expensive. So in 2008, the first full year of what has been dubbed The Great Recession, there's no shock to hear that U.S. births fell 2 percent. This dip in births echos what happend durring The Great Depression too. While this article from USA Today points out that it's only speculation that the economy is the reason for the birth dip, strong evidence supports the theory. For example, the largest decline in births were in California and Florida,… Continue
Added by hitched on August 10, 2009 at 3:51pm —
You: Reporting – “He’s home-couch-dinner-couch-TV-bed. Boring!”
Your girlfriends: Uproarious laughter. “What did you expect? Meaningful conversation?” More laughter.
Meaningful conversation. Outside of arguing about money or the kids? Yeah . . . That’s a challenging rabbit to pull out of the hat.
Worth a try, don’t ya think? So tap the hat lightly with your magician’s wand and pull out - (wait for it)
A smile to greet your mate when he (or you)… Continue
Added by Noelle Nelson on August 6, 2009 at 9:25pm —
Steve Smith (British) and Carmen Ruiz-Perez (Spanish) met 17 years ago when Carmen was a foreign exchange student. After just a year the couple got engaged. Unfortunately, she moved to Paris to run a shop and their relationship abruptly ended. A few years later Steve wrote a love letter and sent it to her mother's home in Spain. The letter fell behind the fireplace and disappeared only to be discovered over a decade later when builders were tearing down the fireplace. Carmen recalls,… Continue
Added by hitched on August 4, 2009 at 9:53pm —
If your method of tanning has been to hop in a tanning bed, you may want to rethink the cost of darkening up. An analysis of about 20 studies suggest that the ultraviolet radiation used in tanning beds make them as dangerous as arsenic and mustard gas and increases your risk of skin cancerby 75% if you started using tanning beds before the age of 30. So if you don't have a beach nearby and good sunblock, what are you to do? The American Cancer Society recommends creams for… Continue
Added by hitched on August 3, 2009 at 2:52pm —
You've heard of the food pyramid, but have you heard about the sex pyramid? Self
magazine has put together their own pyramid to help spice up your sex life and keep it fresh. In the video toward the end you'll hear them discuss how the pyramid can change during the course of your relationship. Another thing that's interesting is seeing if you and your spouse have a similar looking pyramid if you were to put together your own. It may reveal a surprising result of where you're doing really… Continue
Added by hitched on July 29, 2009 at 4:23pm —
Him: Scowling. You’re late. We were supposed to be at the Smiths a half hour ago. It’s business!
You: Miffed. Well it’s not my fault – I had to stay late at work!
A charming couple you’ll be tonight. Forced smiles to the Smiths and daggers to each other.
No fun between the sheets tonight, nuh-uh. It’s a toss-up right now if you’ll even end up in the same bed.
Too bad. The Smiths are good company and it could have been a relaxing, enjoyable… Continue
Added by Noelle Nelson on July 27, 2009 at 7:14pm —
A new study published in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior
says that people who get married and stay married may enjoy better health than the perpetually single. However, those who lose their spouse through divorce or become widowed fare worse than those who never marry. Jumping back into union does seem to lessen some of the health effects of divorce. Marital history was linked to… Continue
Added by hitched on July 27, 2009 at 6:33pm —
conflict: kuh n-flikt; verb.
To come into collision or disagreement; be contradictory, at variance, or in opposition; clash
Conflict has the power to tear apart even the most in love couples and it also has the power to bring people closer. Lets face it, every relationship has conflict and if it doesn’t, that would be a cause for alarm. With no conflict, a relationship can get stagnant and even boring. Each member of a couple brings their own feelings, thoughts and opinions into… Continue
Added by Cory Honickman on July 26, 2009 at 5:21pm —
For the past week, I have scoured the internet blogs with the intent of discovering what people have to say about the recent choices of Steve McNair and the impact of these same choices. It is interesting to see how angry and disgusted people are, that he has been given a heroes farewell...To read this blog in its entirety go to http://www.supporttm.com/Blog/index.php to comment.
Added by Ben Northington on July 23, 2009 at 8:23pm —