Don't expect your relationship to make you happy or to get easier over time. Relationships exist to teach us how to love, which on a good day makes everyone happy, and can feel easy from time to ttime. Learning how to love is the master degree of humanity. Be grateful for this most gentle way of learning how to do it.
I have been married for 25 years and have four kids- 10 to 20 years old. I own Good Clean Love and write about the art and science of loveology and intimacy. My work is a legacy that I leave for my kids and helps me stay honest in my marriage.