"Dear Brett, monogamist relationships dont work at all (80% of Serial Monogamist) they are all SERIAL MONOGAMIST Sex is something between two adults and is highly individual....
We are very happy and love each other very, very much!…"
"You are vastly mistaken. My wife and I are lifestylers (swingers) and our marriage is a thousand times stronger than it ever could have been. I think you don't understand it because you have never done it. It's like…"
"WHY is it.. that nearly everyone has to quote the BIBLE!! It seems that you can not speak FOR YOURSELVES? You must relay on a BOOK? Again I will say, one does not need this.. to have a happy marriage... oh gosh... if you ask, .... I will ask my…"
"Well said Chris. In recent times, my wife and I have found that we have not had "sex" as much as perhaps a year ago, does this mean things have changed between us, or our marriage is weaker, or on the rocks? NOPE. We continue to be…"
"If you are asking how strong our marriage is.... 30 years - young... and we have no need to count. Ours is based on a friendship that begin 43 years ago as children, today, we continue that friendship, that love... our vows... well, we KNOW ours! we…"
"I see that this posting is over a year old, but regardless, I would like to offer this - in the realm of Open Marriage (OM) (I can not speak for the other topics), the author states ". . .I have to admit to being a little curious about it…"
"To Brett Williams,
Wow, in a nutshell you have exposed what is wrong with the current system of relying on "experts" to help your marriage. You couldn't be more wrong in your opinions. We have enjoyed the lifestyle for quite some…"
"This guy obviously missed the entire Jesus boat...
When you pray together it is out loud in front of your spouse..no secrets... bearing your heart to God and your spouse at the same time...DUH!
This sexual swinging is a sin the reason it is is that…"
"I joined this site so I could respond to this pathetic, idiotic Bible rant.
What makes a couple "married"? Making a verbal agreement (vows). What keeps a couple married? Both people's honoring the agreement (keeping their word).…"
What you have described here is a great description of how not to do swinging. First of all I am sorry for you troubles but it i also clear that you have done not even the molst basic research into "how to swing…"
"My wife and I married with the agreement we could both have sex with other people after our marriage. We had both felt slighted in our past relationships and didn't want to get stuck in a passionless marriage again. Soon after our wedding we…"
Can a woman have more than two husbands?
No, a woman cannot have more than two living husbands. A man has no choice, as he must be in wedlock with one wife. But a woman has three choices. Firstly, no wedlock…"
I was thinking about this you know it maybe very likely that she isn't "out to get you" but perhaps she just doesn't want to give up what she has got, so these accusations of hers are likely to be just a way of…"
Once again I am very sorry to hear about your current situation. It must really be a mental and emotional torture for you. I'm really not qualified to give advice on saving your marriage. However this situation has a very familiar…"
Talk. Regular dates. Diverse dates. Prioritize each other above work and kids. Schedule each other. Adjust your other schedules for each other. Drop everything for the other when they need you NOW. Most of the time do yard, house and shopping chores together. Know each other. Cut each other slack. Give grace and forgiveness regularly. Flirt with each other. Compliments. Ditch jealously. Go dancing. Learn ballroom or martial arts or crafts or shooting or something together. Play sexy games. Have sex even when you don't feel like it. Try different things sexually. Choose to trust. Serve first. Learn constructive ways of conflict management: fight nice. Read and discuss the love chapter in Corinthians. Read a racy novel or sex advise book together. Pay attention to your looks (fitness, hair, clothes). Do the occasional marriage enrichment seminar or weekend when one comes up...even if you don't think you need it. Get counseling before, during and after you need it. Worship together (as family), find your right balance between doing things with whole family or friends and without them. Balance check book, pay bills and create budget as a couple. Make a sacrifice to buy each other little gifts. Touch non-sexually too. Stay in touch when you're apart with cards, notes, email, text messages, IM, phone calls, web cams or well thought out objects placed in advance. Don't take each other for granted. Know how much personal space you each need and give it to each other and guard it for each other. Speak well of each other to others. Figure out what makes each other tick and do it. Figure out what ticks each other off and don't do it.