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HI Again,
I was thinking about this you know it maybe very likely that she isn't "out to get you" but perhaps she just doesn't want to give up what she has got, so these accusations of hers are likely to be just a way of defending her new "lifest...
HI Michael,
Once again I am very sorry to hear about your current situation. It must really be a mental and emotional torture for you. I'm really not qualified to give advice on saving your marriage. However this situation has a very familiar sme...
Many of you have asked if we are religious, or Christian, or if we believe the Bible. Based on what we've done, you may be surprised to know the answer to the last two is yes, but to the first part, not so much. You may be even more surprised to k...
Hi, This is Michael - the one who started this post last spring.
Here's an update on us and our experiment with swinging:
Our good times are over. At least that's how it seems for now. We aren't getting along great right now. We try and sometimes...
Totally agree with your last sentence.... as such, if all this occurs, a couple "may" be able to step outside the norm bounds of their relationship (i.e. be it swinging, or open-marriage, etc), yet... face little or no risk to this relationship.
Being jealous is surely a risk, and could undermine the success of one's relationship, in this case, we are referring to marriage. The question then, do you get jealous now? And if so, for what reason(s)? My point, your relationship could be at ri...
You know, a marriage (like any relationship) can be subject to "risks" even if a couple stay within the bounds, and follow the rules that both society (and often the law) have imposed. Where you said you would not risk your marriage, which is your...
HI Brandie, I found your post quite interesting particularly as you raise the religious dimension of sexual politics. As you have raised it I would like to respond as I feel quite strongly that religion and sexuality have been one of the chief too...
Wow, all I have to say is that this the best advice you could ever give to someone. I will certainly share this with my friend who had considered swinging and no, not with me. If you are not a therapist Tammy, you should be!
I'm so laid back and not much offends me, really but swinging just seems so wrong to me. Even if you guys agree to it, its still cheating no matter how you look at it. Are you guys religious? Please don't be mad at me or take what I'm saying as be...
Hi Mrs Childress.
I'm curious. I've heard of marriage counseling, but never divorce counseling. Is this something new that we should know about? My mom was a marriage counselor for seven years, and she's never heard of divorce counseling either - ...
Hi David. I'd agree with much that you say. As I've said elsewhere "Only with strangers", "Only once - no second events", and "safe sex" aka condoms. The first two will avoid getting into emotional relationships, and the thing will protect your he...
Hey Kayla - you are so naive. And very wrong. Firstly, your husband having sex with someone you know is inviting an emotional attachment between him and another woman that will likely end your marriage. Secondly, do you really think that having se...
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- Relationship Status:
- Married
- How long have you been married?
- 20+ Years
- How many kids do you have?
- 5
- What's your best marriage advice?
- Talk. Regular dates. Diverse dates. Prioritize each other above work and kids. Schedule each other. Adjust your other schedules for each other. Drop everything for the other when they need you NOW. Most of the time do yard, house and shopping chores together. Know each other. Cut each other slack. Give grace and forgiveness regularly. Flirt with each other. Compliments. Ditch jealously. Go dancing. Learn ballroom or martial arts or crafts or shooting or something together. Play sexy games. Have sex even when you don't feel like it. Try different things sexually. Choose to trust. Serve first. Learn constructive ways of conflict management: fight nice. Read and discuss the love chapter in Corinthians. Read a racy novel or sex advise book together. Pay attention to your looks (fitness, hair, clothes). Do the occasional marriage enrichment seminar or weekend when one comes up...even if you don't think you need it. Get counseling before, during and after you need it. Worship together (as family), find your right balance between doing things with whole family or friends and without them. Balance check book, pay bills and create budget as a couple. Make a sacrifice to buy each other little gifts. Touch non-sexually too. Stay in touch when you're apart with cards, notes, email, text messages, IM, phone calls, web cams or well thought out objects placed in advance. Don't take each other for granted. Know how much personal space you each need and give it to each other and guard it for each other. Speak well of each other to others. Figure out what makes each other tick and do it. Figure out what ticks each other off and don't do it.
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