Esther, your husband began your marriage on a lie. It takes two to make a marriage work. LEVEL WITH HIM ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL REGARDING THE DEBT ISSUE. Also explain you feel betrayed by his not being truthful to you when you married. Let him speak. Let him explain. But understand that you have an obligation to yourself AND TO THE MARRIAGE to express yourself assertively. If you need help, read "Don't Bet on the Prince! How to Have the Man You Want by Betting on Yourself" You can also contact me directly for Instant Advice at http://www.drgilda.com/instant-advice.htm. If you are assertive about your feelings, your husband will respect you more. Respect guarantees a marriage's shelf life!
Hi Esther - Men and women connect in very different ways. Men connect through physicality, women through talking. Without knowing background, I'd say he's doing the male thing and not necessarily being clingy. Let him know that as a woman you really appreciate his affection (guys need to be appreciated) but that as a woman, you need to connect a bit through the talking first. Let him know that a part of you feels lucky that he finds you so desirable but that another part of you feels like an object -- and again let him know it just a woman thing. Hope this helps!
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