I attended the seminar referenced in the article with Dr. Gannon - and it was great! As a result of what we heard we had a good discussion about the strengths and areas in need of work in our own marriages. Couples therapists don't always necessarily get it right in their own marriages as after all, we're all human!
The thing my husband and I continue to work on is making time for each other. With a four year old and busy careers for both of us, it's too easy to let this fall to the wayside. Another thing that has proven to be an obstacle is our different sleep patterns - I need A LOT - and he needs very little. Our son stays up until 10P some evenings and after that, I'm ready for bed! So this has proven to be challenging.
We work on it by scheduling lunches or bike rides during the week. We're also trying to implement a more regular night out for adult conversation.
Marriages take work - and that's ok! Oh what a potential payoff!
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT