I need help with communication from my hubby! I feel like we can never reach a common ground on anything. I try to present new things to him or things that I find interesting and, he's not amused. I get no feed back from him! And to discuss things he's interested in would be a feat because I don't even think HE knows!!! He's the baby of five boys and I feel like his Puerto Rican up-bring didn't open his mind to things outside of that. I'm a military brat so my parents brought me and my siblings up to be very well rounded and aware of things in the world.
Right now, I've been educating myself more on Global Warming and the like with the economy, since last month was Earth Day. And trying to discuss things that I've learned is like I'm talking to a caveman! I love my pookiebear dearly (yes, I call him my pookiebear- and snookabunny- and bubu...) but, I need some strategies or techniques on how to get him out of his simple-minded personality! I feel like I'm the intellectual one and doing all the work in researching different things for our marriage and he just exists! We use to have fun long time ago! I don't know what happened! Not that going out to have is the problem, its getting us to have deep, meaningful, intelligent, conversations. I feel that marriage is about experiencing and learning things together, bonding. If it's not made of those things, then what's the point?
And, I'm sooooo flexible that whatever he's in to I am as well. I watch UFC, Pinks, any shows that he would watch, I watch as well. I looooove these shows BUT, how do I get him into my world as well? I was watching something on the History Channel about an excavation in Egypt and, he didn't understand why I found it so interesting. He doesn't believe these archeologist go out and excavate history as we know it!!! I tried to talk to him about the latest research of men having a internal clock as discussed on the Today Show, he didn't want to believe it. He always shuns anything that I present that is of information away. I just don't get it! And that's just the communication part of it! We barely make love anymore! And I mean barely! Like as in every quarter moon! And that's actually too often! It's less often than that! We don't sit and cuddle or have quite moments where we just sit and look at each other and talk. I NEED HELP! I FEEL SOOOOO ALONE!