talk about sex

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Permalink Reply by Lovely on November 17, 2008 at 10:41am

Have you expressed to him when a good time is? He might not know when to strike it up.

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Permalink Reply by Susan on November 17, 2008 at 11:15am

How does one find a good time when so busy with kids, house, pets, work, homework etc.?

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Permalink Reply by Kasi on November 17, 2008 at 12:41pm

Maybe you need to schedule time. Clearly it is something important to him, and the fact that he wants to talk to you about it sure beats the alternative! If it was a conversation about something else, important to you, that you wanted to have, and he said the above statement - how would you feel about that?

If I were him, and you said it was never a good time and there never will be a good time.... I'd feel rejected and hurt and angry. It's an important part of connecting. Maybe you could set a time for it - after a meal so you're not hungry, after the kids are in bed, whatever. Maybe suggest that if he help you with those things, it would be easier to fit it in. But seems like he may be needing reassurance that this thing that is so important to him is important to you, too.

Maybe you're feeling overwhelmed by life, and that's the basis of your 'there is never a good time' statement. Maybe you need to explain that to him? That it's hard to feel excited about the conversation, even though you know it is important to him, when you're feeling so overwhelmed. And ask him for help so you can feel less overwhelmed.

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Permalink Reply by ShelbyHEim on April 21, 2009 at 11:47am

Regardless of your busy life you truly should make time to talk to your husband about this. It is important to him and in the end it affect you as well. Ignoring it would not solve it. So please make time and talk to him. It won't go away.

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