My husband is generally cool and slightly aloof with most people. He is not unkind or punitive in any way, he is simply "self-contained" in a manner of speaking, and comes off as a bit shy.
Here's the problem. I have been with this man since 1994 and I have only heard him say my name EIGHT TIMES. He does not use my name--not in conversation with others, not in conversation with me, and not in bed, where I would TRULY love to hear him say it.
He does not use endearments or nicknames or the like either. I've never heard him say "honey" or "baby" or "lover" or any other name-substitute.
I have talked to him about that..and how much I want to hear him say my name when making love. I've cried, begged, wished-on-falling-stars... He is simply uncomfortable with it, and unable to tell me why. And I remain bereft.
Our sex life is suffering...in fact, it's almost non-existant...because my neediness and his discomfort make for a very uncomfortable "elephant in the room."
Is there ANYBODY else out there with this problem? Do you have ANY idea why he feels that way? HELP!