SAVE MY MARRIAGE.

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Permalink Reply by Nyx Wolfwalker on May 16, 2009 at 2:12am

I am in menopause have been for some time now (am also only 31 years of age, and just married last weekend).

Anyhow, there are tests that your GP or GYN can do to test to see if you are hitting early menopause - and if so congrats on the end of those womenly issues that can be so frustrating at times.

When it comes to lack of lubercation, it might not be 100% hormonal but just lack of the right stimulation going on, but at any rate KY or other lubs should help in that area if you are willing to use that stuff. You might also try different positions, since depending on the angle he hits you at just how dry or not you may be.

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Permalink Reply by itsmemichelleb on June 14, 2009 at 9:31am

yes, I have heard of this problem, and I do feel for you; I caoont relate, but I do feel your pain and fear of losing him to another woman at some point... and it is good that you are aware that could happen bc it does all the time / I wouldnt use a sex cream, bc cream gets absorbed, I would try something more like an oil, that is safe for that type of use, try a sex store and see if you can find a more oily less absorbable type of lubricant so you can endure sex longer /
and if that doesn't work out, then, FLIP OVER AND TAKE IT IN THE REAR, bc if your vagina is hurting you from sex, well, you still have another very pleasurable entrance to let him make love to you and if he goes slow at first, and slowly enters you WITH LOTS OF LUBE then you should really enjoy it

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if he tries to enter you from the missionary position then it won't go in as deep into your rear and it won't hurt you much, it is definitely worth the try, I like it , I hope you do too for ya'll sake

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Permalink Reply by Debbie King on July 22, 2009 at 9:14am

Hi Bibi
Though you don't actually say so, it sounds as though you have never had a full-blown orgasm - since you use the expression "good and enouraging". Therefore I'd speculate that your situation might be due to a combination of three things.Lack of sufficient foreplay; a medical condition - diabetes or anythig which required antihistamines; a naturally tight vagina which can be caused by psychological factors. A very close girlfriend had the same problems that you seem to suffer and we managed to fix things by the following. First thing to do is get yourself not one, but three sex toys, One of fairly small diameter (to start with), the second on larger diameter one to stretch you, and one finger stimulator to work on you clitoris. You'll also need some lubricant. KY jelly seems to be the most common but you might be better off with a lubricating suppository. The objectives here is to stretch your vagina while you masterbate to a real full-blown orgasm. This will dispell the psychological hang-ups that you now have. To help things along the way, you should get hold of a porno DVD which should help you get stimulated. Now, once you are able to reach a full-blown organism, it will be time to get your husband on board. The quickest and easiest is to pull out your vibrator and use it immediately you both go to bed and even if you can't actually reach and organsism - fake it. If he asks what you are doing tell him that you don't seem to be getting enough sex from him - don't be embarrased. Chances are if he hears you moaning he'll be there eager to do the job himself. Lastly, to educate him on foreplay, get him to watch the sex video together with you - he'll soon get the message, and you will likely no longer need artificial lubrication. Even better you'll be enoying regular full-blown orgasms. And of course your husband is much less likely to stray.
Anyway this all worked for my girlfriend - to the extent that her huband was at it all the time and she now has a great sex life. I hope it helps you :-)

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