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Permalink Reply by Mrs. Childress on February 8, 2009 at 8:38pm

Desire,

If your husband is truly repentant for his behavior, he will understand that it takes a great deal of time to work through the feelings of a marriage that has been compromised. There is no such thing as “getting over it” – you simply accept and move on. This won’t happen over night. When you have chosen to accept and forgive, you shouldn’t bring up the betrayal or throw it in his face either. Since you have made the decision to forgive him, you should not invoke this matter during future arguments. Evoking the incident is not going to make things better instead it might cause other issues in your relationship. Seek counseling. Couples counseling is a confidential and non-judgmental process that is aimed to help you better understand and manage problems in the relationship.

Sylvia

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Permalink Reply by Bibi on March 12, 2009 at 5:55am

it depends on the type of betrayal. I recommend communication and forgiveness in marriage.Learn to say you are sorry and realy feel sorry about what you may have done to make your partner angree. The other partner should forgive and forget sincerely. That didnot mean that you should always betral your partner porposely just because you are always forgiven.

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Permalink Reply by ShelbyHEim on April 21, 2009 at 11:39am

I do agree that it is a lengthy and difficult process of acceptance and understanding. With good communication, hard work and outside help the marriage can be back on track. Here is an article that might help you out: Keeping Love Alive During Marriage Crisis.

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Permalink Reply by Olya S. on April 28, 2009 at 7:59am

I personally can't imagine. what's the story, I mean, why was tehre cheating?

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Permalink Reply by Desire on May 26, 2009 at 1:43pm

is there ever really a "reason" or "excuse" for cheating?? it's a betrayal of trust and leaves you with constant pain and hurt there's never a reason. if either ever feels attracted or begins to fall out of love, misses an ex or just wants the attention from others then have the decentcy and respect to do that alone and not in a relationship to avoid hurting and scarring the other person.

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Permalink Reply by Nikki B on May 19, 2009 at 2:48pm

Lots and lots of prayer and time. And also depending on the magnitude of the betrayal will you be able to fully recover and how long will you need to heal. FORGET. I don't think so. Forgive. Eventually weather you chose to move on or not.

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