I met my husband just after he and his ex-wife seperated. they were married 11 yrs and had 3 children. The oldest of 12 was adopted by my husband and the other two (10 and 4) are his biological children. Not long after we moved in to gether i over heard a conversation where he was telling the ex how he missed her and wanted to come home. Now there were NO problems with us it, was him missing his children and wanting to be with them all. I asked him to go back home and be with his family and try to be happy. He refused to leave and told me he loved dearly and couldnt truely be without me. Well of course that put my wall up and eventually thing got better... BUT in may of 2008 I was told by his ex that since he was working at a job in their town he had been coming over and sleeping with her. i immediately told him to leave. We were only dating and I didn;t want him anymore because that was the ultimate betrayal he could have ever done to me. Well he cried and boohooed and talked to the preacher and our wonderfull neighbors and during all this time refussed to leave again. I told him it was over and he swore to me he would never do that again. He told me i was the best thing that had ever happened to him and he was a fool and couldn't live with out me in his life. He really put a dagger in my heart this time. We eventually staid together but ever since that happened our relationship hasn't been the same. I really have hard feeling toward him and just can't seem to overcome them. In september we got married! I do love him and he does take care of me and my daughter. We bought a house and right after that his ex desided to take off the Virginia with out telling him. Well we did find out and within 4 days had emergency custody of his two biological kids. So within two weeks we bought a home, got married, and aquiired to more children full time. Talk about stress! The children have never been tought any respect, how to take good care of their things or even how to clean up after themselves. That was left up to me to do. So now we have this small 3 br 1 ba home with 3 kids and 2 adults. Kaos Kaos Kaos!!! Well because my husband is so lazy at home i did teach them some ethics and stuff. But now the 4 yr old is terrified of me and the 10 yr old stays glued to the TV and my 3 yr old is just as active as can be. my husband can't stand that she wont be still and sit around like his two ( like a lump on a log). My husband works hard everywhere but at home. When he isnt working he half ass does anything i ask him to do and sometimes just wont even do it at all. My 18 year old was living with his dad and has had problems there and now is here with me. my husband hates him because he cant control him. its to the point where im ready to tell him to leave if he cant deal with it. He's already run my son off once and im not letting him do it agian. I just can't do it all and I really don't know what to do. Is there anybody out there that can help me with this?